Everyone usually speaks about the things they are doing, what things you are not doing today?

I turned 48 today. My mom drove up to visit and we’re having a low-key good time; she bought me some books and complimented me on my greying hair(!).

I live in a very kitty-tastic neighborhood. My neighbor kitty, Gizmo, is one of the best. He’s a polydactyl, and apparently a klepto. My neighbor lady knocked on my door the other night with a handful of my garden gloves. Apparently Gizmo likes to bring home presents for his mom, and those presents include two of my…

I‘ve been wanting to start my own business and I just found out that someone in the same general industry (though offers a different service entirely) has a blog related to their business with the exact same fucking name. We’re about 90 miles away from each other too, so I think it would be confusing and possibly if…

You can’t and he’s not your problem. I’d say do the minimum, be truthful about his shortcomings if you have to write up and evaluation and leave in peace. This guy isn’t going to fool anybody that he’s a nice guy once they have to deal with him so don’t even worry about it.

I’ve been in my new house for a week now and living alone is the fucking best. I don’t think I’ve closed the bathroom door once. And I baked a huge wedding dessert order in my own kitchen when I damn well felt like it (no more scheduling kitchen time).

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Thanks, but it’s really selfish... I do it when I’m in a rage about the world and feel like everything is garbage and I need to do something in my control to make it a tiny bit less of a dumpster fire. My mood is improved, other people’s day is improved, we all win. But my motivation is usually MAKE THE HURT STOP FOR…

Whole Foods, though? Why not pick up the tab at [looks up ATL supermarkets] Lidl or Kroger?

When I worked on Capitol Hill, I started the Girls Club or Good Old Girls Network. We’d meet for lunch or happy hour or brunch on weekends and discuss work and job prospects. It was so enjoyable and relaxed. I invited young women I mentored so they could get job prospects.

Same here. My lesbian friends (which honestly is my entire social group...I am the token straight friend) basically just can’t be bothered. Whereas my repeated dealings with men’s bullshit has definitely left me more jaded and cynical and angry with men.

It’s probably easier to deal knowing when you go home you’re done with the bullshit.

As a former hairdresser and nail tech I’ve always been proud that salons are traditionally the oldest safe spaces for women, gays and non binary folk. Having worked in them for many years I can say with confidence that if it’s the right type of salon, most men will avoid them at all costs. Better even yet is your…

LOL. Honestly, most of the lesbians I know hate men WAY less than I do.

Is that you, Elaine?

I loved her character so, so much. I love that she hooked up with the other guy because she wanted to and that it didn’t ruin her relationship with Cassius. For some reason, that spoke to me so much and I thought it was incredibly realistic. Little things like that. She loves Cash, but he doesn’t make or break her. It…

It did kind of bother me that she seemingly gets a ‘pass’ for using a white voice. We see her express discomfort when Cassius uses it at the bar, so was she not doing it then, or is it only okay in certain contexts? Was it not until he called her out for selling her art to rich white people that she started doing it?…

A film where two women talk about why they aren’t married yet doesn’t necessarily pass the Bechdel test either--unless it’s because they’re waiting to validate their lesbian love in the eyes of the state until the capitalist patriarchy has been dismantled.

(i.e. one offensive tweet cost Roseanne Barr her TV show and reputation.)

People have always been brands, but  typically it’s called a reputation.