Unless you have light blue eyes like me, then sunglasses are a requirement unless indoors or it's nighttime, seriously. I've been known to wear sunglasses in a building with lots of windows as well. Lack of pigment!

Seriously! The last guy I dated met me on the street outside of a juice shop. Not because he stampeded through my headphones and sunglasses, but because I took off my shades and clearly smiled at him, giving him an extremely obvious green light to say hello. Which he did in a very non threatening way.

That's a good man right there, seriously. Congratulations on having an awesome brother. Putting the feeling of safety of women above his own penis-feels. High five him for all of us please!

Please please please tell your friends. I once posted that essay entitled Schrodinger's Rapist about that exact idea, that as fucked up as it is, every strange man is technically a potential rapist in the eyes of woman by herself. I posted it on Facebook and my ex boss (white straight male) posted the Wikipedia entry…

I loves everything you just said!

Imagining the owners of my restaurant paying more than $2.13 an hr is laughable. They would probably rather shut the place down than spend their money on employees. They already illegally pay the S.A.s (server assistants) $2.13 an hr, as well as making servers pay a 4% (and 4.5% on Amex) service charge to receive our…

I can agree with that, but if it means people start tipping less in response to me making minimum wage, it won't be worth it. Again though, this is fine dining. Unless we are totally dead I make great money off of tips. Any restaurant more casual (and I have worked in tons of those) I would have to agree. I've worked…

That's a really good response, actually. I may steal that. I usually do the book plus earbuds combo, not that it always works, but I try. And of course my headphones are usually off, I need to be able to hear what's going on around my in order to be safe. I do wish I had the privilege of actually being able to listen…

TERRIFYING! Holy shit that's insane behavior! What did you do?

Wait! I can't see the video! Does anyone have a working link?

Best response yet!

Gasp! Pervert!

Because our orientation isn't strictly about sex, no matter now many anti-gay people try to make it such. Whereas kink/poly/etc definitely is about sex.

Yikes! I'm sorry :/

yikes! I'm sorry :/

Okay, but unless my employer can guarantee paying me 20% of my sales or like $40/hr then how is it any better? $15 an hour or whatever they want it to be just won't cut it. Maybe I'm still confused?

Sounds like you have a real dislike for servers. Tips go to the servers. They already have to tip out multiple people, back of house should never be included. Every cook knows how much cooks make money wise. Now work hard and move up to Sous or Chef de Partie and even executive chef. Meanwhile servers will still be…

I once had two cops at my bar drink and yell rape chants! I can't remember them but one of the less offensive ones wass loud and obnoxious and something like "IF SHE DOESNT LIKE IT, HOLD HER DOWN UNTIL SHE DOES!"

disgusting and NOT okay. I worked as a hostess when I was 15/16 years old. The host stand was right next to the bar that was mostly full of rich older white guys or young frat boys. I don't know which was worse!

I work in fine dining and if I make less than $200, I consider it a shitty night, and we aren't even in a busy season, currently. I bring in anywhere between $200 to even $450 on a great night. There is no way my employer could match that. In higher end restaurants getting "stiffed" or recieving no tip/ bad tips…