I can’t believe he literally opened with “I don’t see color”. Like, that’s super that race doesn’t matter to you, Jerry, I bet it matters a lot to the man whose mother went to jail for being in a relationship with his father, though!

The fact you’ve taken precautions and training make you a perfect candidate for safe gun ownership. You aren’t carrying it around because a homeless person might ask you for change.

And the odds of the attacker having one, or taking it from you, or you misfiring?

Same. This whole “Just let me know one way or the other if my kid is invited.”? Easy peasy lemon squeezy: Is your kid on the invite? Yes: invited No: Not invited.

I’m confused about so many people thinking this is difficult. People listed on the invitation are invited. Period.

“We only tied to exterminate your tribe that one time!”

THIS WHOLE CONVERSATION IS FRUSTRATING THE SHIT OUTTA ME!!! THE INVITATION IS ADDRESSED TO WHOMEVER IS INVITED. IT EITHER INCLUDES THE CHILDREN OR NOT. THIS ENTIRE ARTICLE WOULD BE UNNECESSARY IF PEOPLE RESPECTED BASIC RULES OF ETIQUETTE. GHA!

“Slavery was 500 years ago!” (It wasn’t) “Why can’t black people just let it go already?”

If your brother’s kids names weren’t on the invitation, then they weren’t invited. It’s really not that difficult.

I'd guess he's just in it for himself- and thought the gimmick would help his business. From the description of his store and foods, he's no amateur at running a restaurant.

I don’t understand how this is a mystery? If their names or “and family” are not on the invitation, they are not invited. End of story. The people who are invited are the people whose names are on the envelope.

An invitation addresses to The BLANK Family means the kids are invited. If it isnt addressed that way, kids are not allowed.

It’s really quite simple and clear - the names of the people on the invitation are the names of the people invited. So,

“the question of the etiquette surrounding whether or not to let kids come to your wedding...there’s no one correct answer.”

Not just weddings, people! Parties in general! My husband’s holiday work party was “nonverbally understood” to be kid-friendly in 2013, and when we showed up sans child, everyone was like, “WHERE’S YOUR KID?!” so we went and got her and she spent that evening with other kids, running around, dancing.

We had a no-kids wedding except for our two teenage nieces. We paid for a sitter at our home to watch the kids of out-of-town guests (most locals already had someone lined up, most likely a grandparent who would do it for free). No added expense for the parents, the kids were about 5 minutes by car from their parents,…

When my wife and I got married (10 years ago), we decided that we didn’t want kids at the wedding. Our infant daughter was the one and only exception, and we had a sitter there to take over after the pictures were taken, all the guests had finished passing her around and cooing over her, and/or when she was ready for…

The invitation itself is the direct statement. If your children are listed, they are invited. The converse is also true.

This is definitely going to sound ruder than I mean it to, but I don’t know how else to express it. I don’t really understand what the issue is. If you receive an invitation to an event, why would you bring people not listed on that invitation? If someone sent me an invitation to “Mr. and Mrs. FazeCraze,” I honestly…

Situations like this are exactly why etiquette (meaning not just “good manners,” but a system of rules governing social behavior) exists. And etiquette is really, really clear on this issue, whether it comes to weddings or anything else: the people invited are the people whose names are on the invitation. It’s such a…