Dude, you need to chill the fuck out and try to remember that not everything you read in the comments section is literal. Also, you need to realize that I am in no way responsible for ANY aspect of your adoption/childbearing journey, and have no need to trip over myself apologizing over anything in regards to my…

I kind of gave my aunt the side-eye when she announced her second adopted child was from China (first is from Romania, adopted when he was 3 - 19 years ago), but I did have to applaud her for adopting a thirteen year old. And to my knowledge, her choice was partially because a close friend in similar shoes adopted…

And yet every bit of your post is accurate. I've considered having babies, but infants are boring and toddlers are a nightmare. So then I’ve often thought that I’d like to adopt a five year old but then, I’d have to find a really well-cared for five year old. So, a five year old of very loving parents who did all the…

Trevor Noah always gives me the dudebro “im just kidding” vibe and i am not here for it.

An older kid in foster care has probably been through a lot, that a baby hasn’t gone through. Things that many parents don’t feel equipped to handle.

I’ve NEVER understood that. Listen, I have a kid...and she was absolutely inconsolable and WORTHLESS from birth until at least 5 or so. I would’ve gladly skipped those years in which I had to do every single little thing for her. WHY DON’T PEOPLE APPRECIATE OLDER KIDS MORE?!?!?!

Considering that kids past their first birthday are often considered unadoptable—much less black children—this is a pretty damn nice thing for Bullock to do. Good on her.

I recently went to see a standup show where Trevor Noah was a surprise performer. His whole set was a joke about Oscar Pistorius and the punch line was that his fiancée had annoyed him so badly when he woke her up in the middle of he night that he shot her.

But they will surely have Michael Fassbender, Sean Connery, and (if he was alive) John Lennon on.

So while I come from an very wealthy family & have received a lot of help because of it, my husband comes from a working class family (he is the only one of his siblings to go to college). Neither my husband, an artist, or I are huge earners, but because of the safety net provided by my parents, we are able to help…

Yeah, my mom let me live with her rent-free for two years after college. I paid my own cell phone bill and occasionally bought groceries and tried to cook for us when I had time. (I was working three jobs to save money so I could move to Boston and go to grad school.) I have a steady job here now and I graduate in…

That sounds like my old boss. He thought I was an idiot for paying interest on a car loan. Why didn’t I ask my parents to buy the car and then pay them back interest-free? Was I too proud??

I completely understand. I think a large part of why my parents so freely offer support is because my mom was initially denied her dream college by my grandparents and had some serious regret attached to that. I am also incredibly privileged in that my parents value education so they wanted to be primarily responsible…

But even if it’s a family plan, I’d still like to think you could pay your share right? That’s the part I don’t get.

Wow... My parents have never paid for me to have a phone. They didn’t pay for college, either. In fact, when I was 17, my mother point-blank told me that if I went to school, she wouldn’t help me with anything. I got a full-time job and moved out. I didn’t get to go to college until I was 26 because I had to pay for…

but like...you can stay on a family plan but that doesn’t mean you can’t pay for your share though, right?

That’s the whole point. It’s okay to be spoiled. I know I am in lots of ways that others aren’t. Mostly because I’m an only child. But I acknowledge it and don’t let it make me a shitty person because of it.

Kudos to you for taking your advantages and using it to help other people.

I am very surprised by how many people my age are not paying their own phone bills!

Receiving help isn’t in and of itself bad. SlickWillie is a prime example of how parental help isn’t in and of itself bad because he’s fully aware of the extraordinary help he received.

Whereas, I think being poor made me unable to handle my finances because I didn’t know what it was like to have money. Even now, there are things I simply don’t understand or consider because they weren’t a part of my life growing up at all.