I was thinking of bad sex as sex where the people involved are not in synch with what they think should be happening when and mis-read the other’s cues. Or it’s boring. Or one person is overwhelmed by what’s going on (not overwhelmed in the sense of being forced, which is always bad sex by definition) and freezes up.…

I realize this is only a side comment in the story, but she’s right - bad sex is better than a bad haircut.  Bad sex eventually ends, and if you’re lucky your partner can learn.  A bad haircut might last for months.

They could very easily start by re-making all the now-classics, but with LGBTQ leads. Body Heat was made like 37 years after Double Indemnity, and this year marks 40 years since Body Heat, so it’s not like it’d be too soon or something.

look at these descriptions of marriage, and I’m just dumbfounded.

That’s almost islamic-level “blame the victim”. I hope you’ve recovered; from the way you were treated, as well as the act itself.

Thank you for this comment. I was sincerely wondering about the ramifications of men being instructed to be rapists. It seems like most of them take the role just fine, but clearly that is not always the case. I haven’t been on dating apps for a while, but it seemed like a lot of folks were on there looking for a free…

“It cannot be understated how prevalent and powerful purity culture messaging was and is for *millions* of people in the Christian world. It’s not just the fundies.”

As a guy, you better believe I enjoy sex but I can’t comprehend forcing your partner into appeasing your sexual appetites like this. How is that enjoyable???

I grew up in the sort of environment that the author describes for Christy - devout evangelical... but not so far as to appear visibly off the deep end. I have vivid memories of things that I was told in youth group about sex, such as that we girls should be careful not to arouse boys (even brushing up against their…

I saw the results of purity culture firsthand about 8 years ago when I was on Tinder and the dating scene after years in a long term, consensual fun passionate sex-filled relationship. (We broke up for out-of-bedroom incompatibility issues).

It cannot be understated how prevalent and powerful purity culture messaging was and is for *millions* of people in the Christian world. It’s not just the fundies. Harris’s I Kissed Dating Goodbye sold millions, but was also recommended by youth pastors and parents and passed around as a new Bible.

I think the events happened essentially as described. Had they been invented, they’d have invented something more clear-cut.

Julian Assange has admitted to having sex with these women without their consent, he has just tried to argue, unsuccessfully, that this didn’t count as rape according to UK law and that he shouldn’t be extradited for that reason.

Truly have no idea. The accusation is a textbook case of a “he said, she said” situation, which is is the perfect kind of trumped-up charge to destroy someone you can’t touch otherwise.

He seems like the kind of entitled asshat to think sexual assault is nbd because hey who wouldn’t want his D?

Absolutely. I am struck by the irony of someone who has made a name for himself by releasing classified information refusing to answer questions about his own conduct.

He can be both a paragon of transparency and a rapist the two things aren’t mutually exclusive

I think some people thought it was a set-up for the purposes of extraditing him to the U.S. I think that amplified the suspicion people had of the victims, suspicion which is unfortunately baked into our society. It’s like government conspiracy culture multiplied by rape culture.

It really disturbs me the number of people I know who are normally progressive suddenly abandon the victims in this case because America bad, Wikileaks good! It’s like somehow they feel taking Assange to task as with every other rape case betrays their belief in government transparency. It’s really like a cult of…

Why would you put a statute of limitations on a rape charge?