Got it. You’re a callous asshole who gives shitty, unhelpful “pull yourself up by your bootstraps” advice to everyone, not just sex workers. Thanks for clarifying!

I haven’t read this yet but I’M SO FREAKING HERE FOR THIS INTERVIEW. I love You Must Remember This and Karina Longworth so much. Okay, off to read now.

But the point is, you wouldn’t do this with any other industry. You don’t hear about conditions at Amazon and say, “Jeez, warehouse work is so devaluing and objectifying. You need to do something more worthwhile with your life, you STEVEDORE!” You say, “Wow, those are shitty working conditions! Someone should do…

Whereas I would say that there’s nothing inherent about it—the act of sex work is objectifying and dehumanizing because there is so much performative rhetoric that frames it in those terms. When you’re constantly telling women, “How can you sell your bodies like that?”, you aren’t just performing a neutral, objective…

Okay. Sounds like you made a choice for whatever reason, and now are demonizing sex to make yourself feel better about that choice. And in the process, you’re judging and shaming the people that choose to have it. That’s not cool.

I didn’t say it was the exact same thing, but my point is that women should be allowed to make whatever choices they want in their lives without interference, from me, from anyone else, from the government. But just because women have the freedom to make whatever choices they want doesn’t mean they’re entitled to a…

Thanks for the reference.  I wish you the best in whatever direction you want to go in your career.  

Sex worker here. A college education and sex work are most definitely not mutually exclusive. In fact, I would not have been able to afford grad school (or undergrad) had it not been for sex work. If you’re interested in reading more about the ways in which sex work can be separated from oppression, the website…

Sex work wouldn’t exist without female necessity, poverty, and desperation.

On the contrary that's ABSOLUTELY judgmental. 

I’ve seen one ghost. And that was enough for me. I believed in them before I saw one, but I never had a desire to actually see one. When this happened to me, I was living in Jersey City in a really old house that was built around 1869. I really loved this house, but maaaaan it was a labor of love. The last time it…

Shawcross did not only kill prostitutes. He killed at least one child.

The Backwards-Walking Man:

The gay porn scene famously uses condoms instead of STI testing, whereas the straight porn world is the opposite: they typically don’t use condoms and instead rely on rigorous testing.  That is what she was talking about: that crossover actors don’t undergo as much testing as straight porn actors do, so that’s why…

Loved this! You totally put me there with your writing. Also, I lived in a similar neighborhood in LA a few years back. This reminded me of the day I took my little guys to the park and there was a man playing music for the kids. I was pushing one of the boys on the swings and when I turned around and looked back, the…

Wait. There’s supposed to be a monthly allowance?!

I finally have one to share! I bought a house in 2015, it’s now 73 years old. It was built by a local dude who used to be an honest to god cowboy, staged bank robberies in the middle of downtown to drum up publicity for rodeos in the 19-teens here. Anyway, he built this house and got to live in it for about ten years…

I am going to do my best to conceal where this takes place because I don’t want to hurt anybody’s feelings. Fair warning: this is elliptical and doesn’t have much narrative payoff, but that’s the way it happened.

Christmas Eve, 1981

Okay, this might get lost in the abyss, but I know that a lot of folks read these all month. Bear with me, this got a little long as I typed it out.