#normcore

I think it's pretty openly acknowledged that chefs have the potential to be nasty. It's kind of cultivated by their environment. It's almost a prerequisite to be egotistical, in order to sell yourself as a chef and your food to the customers. You probably also need to have extra tough skin (i.e. be a bit of an…

"So, your resume is quite impressive, but what qualifications specifically make you the chef we're looking for?"

I love how often it seems like chefs are the last people who should be given open access to a large and diverse selection of knives.

Actually, I have found the cops to be equally disinterested in either the cases of bike theft and the cases of rape that I have known about.

However, blaming pornography seems like a bizarre leap.

Mainstream porn goes out of its way to dehumanize its participants. It wants to remove any and all context and personality from the act of sex. We are watching two sets of body parts slam into each other. Sometimes they make sounds.

I disagree that young men are in for a rude awakening. Mostly, young men are having their first sexual encounters with young women who are woefully undereducated on the topic and raised in a culture that glorifies female sexual obedience. With D&D, there's pretty solid evidence that you're not a halfling and that you…

Fair. I was thinking more specifically of the juxtaposition Brenna has set up of porn that degrades women vs. Potterotica with fully formed characters, as well as the differences between visual and print media. Also porn clearly reaches a much wider audience and has more influence on mainstream society than specific…

Oh, I don't agree with that at all. Men hate that book, and I suspect they'll hate the movie representation of it as well. As screwed up as that story is, it's a pretty standard female fantasy that objectifies and idealizes the man and provides all kinds of yardsticks that the typical guy will never meet and…

Fan fiction is probably one of the few "big" places where outsider experiences (i.e. anything not geared for the white straight male) are given room to flourish. The message here is one about agency.

"I'm not a woman…"

I don't personally read underage fics because I'm 30 and no thank you, but I wouldn't say they're never ok. There are a lot of teenagers writing and reading fic and it's ok if they want to fantasize about characters their own age. I'd also rather that someone into kids reads fanfic about fictional characters who…

Porn should not be where young people are going to learn about sex.

She's examining the lessons that she has learned from different types of pornography, and finding that the lessons she (and some of her partners) learned from some types of mainstream pornography involve coercion and dehumanization (without said dehumanization being something previously agreed upon as hot).

People who can't afford a car need to be able to live somewhere with a robust public transit system or where they can walk to work. When they've lived there all their lives and are still poor, they need to save for a vehicle and other costs of moving outward which is impossible because their rent is too high. Catch-22.

Can people who are normally progressive please stop excusing the Duggars for their reprehensible views just because they seem nice and the show is a fun train wreck?

LittleSparrow lost it on a catcaller for the first time at 12. She and her girlfriends had run to the coffee shop around the corner between class and play rehearsals when on the way back two college-age guys started shouting lewd things at them. Feeling safe with a teacher within sight, she turned and started berating…

This. I remember the first time I was cat-called. I was out with friends. We were 12. I was terrified. I was even more terrified when one of my girlfriends decided to throw a handful of small stones at them while yelling "We are children! We just paid $5 each to see a G rated movie because we are god damn children!"
Yea…

And to anybody needing to get anywhere in the city! Fuck those people! I hope they missed their flights, or they got fired for being late to work, or their dates went horribly, or their kids where scared when nobody picked them up from school! I mean, why shouldn't thousands of people be severely inconvenienced so we…