My very Minnesotan fiance salts everything before he eats it!!! Now I understand it's just a geography thing, not necessarily my cooking. Though in response to his compulsive salting, I've been cooking with less and less salt, since eff it he's going to salt it anyway before he even tries it, so maybe I'm…

Not sure if this information is useful, but... Just signed into Twitter from the upper Midwest (US). #Fergusun appears second on the list, only after a promoted (paid advertising?) hashtag.

On the 18% automatic gratuity. Does the management ever skim off the top of that? Does the full 18% typically go to the server (minus whatever the normal tip out protocol is that they'd do for any other tip)? Is it okay to ask? I just want to make sure the server is actually getting the tip, and have always…

As a nearly 30-year old PhD student living with another, similarly aged PhD student, with an engagement allegedly in the near future, whose one and only cheap-o but kinda functional nonstick pan recently was ruined by a friend who cranked up the heat to 11 on it, I 100000% agree with you. We won't have the problem of…

You know what drives me nuts in public/shared bathrooms? Toilets that splash when you flush them. There is always some kind of water on the toilet seats at my work, and I'm convinced that it can't possibly all be pee. I've actually watched it flush* and yep - splashes. It was fine when I sat on it, fine when I got…

This is some disgusting bullshit right here. Jeff Bezos owns the WaPo. I'm going to take a hiatus from shopping at Amazon.com for a while.

Starbucks usually has single-occupant bathrooms with gendered signs on them. Why the fuck they're gendered when they're single-occupant is beyond me, but I guess that's besides the point. Anyway, this story makes me want to start using the men's room. Also, I love the kitchenette. Thanks for being awesome.

Okay, I know your comment was over a month ago, so I apologize for bringing back dead threads. But I just gotta know.

The most important thing to me is that the proposal not be the first time we talk about marriage. The boyfriend and I have discussed it thoroughly, already mutually agreed that this is what we want, so now I'm just waiting around for the actual proposal.

*facepalm* No, you're not supposed to recycle them. You're supposed to upcycle them, obviously. Turn them into balloon animals or wedding table centerpieces or something after you're done with the intended purpose, and then pin the shit out of it and/or sell it on etsy.

Also. Is randomly removing your socks an ADHD thing? Really? I'm not challenging or arguing. Just totally intrigued because I do seem to kick mine off fairly often and never thought about it.

Sorry to wake week-old comments from the dead, but wow. Your metaphor for ADHD is brilliant. It's so hard to explain to non-ADHD (especially neurotypical) people what it's like. I'm going to hang onto your money shower one for future conversations. A few weeks ago, my boyfriend observed at the end of a quiet, lazy…

I just installed a removable massaging shower head, so I'm probably going to switch from being a twice a week girl to twice daily. Ahem. You know, because it's important to be clean and all that.

Yes. By the almighty infallible logic of the grays, your misdiagnosis means that bipolar disorder does not in fact exist. ;) The stupid can be so painful at times. Seriously, folk. Just because you had one experience doesn't mean others can't have different ones. Glad you finally got your diagnoses sorted out.

I want to address some of the gray comments without actually having to bring them out of the gray.

Yeah, I know it adds a layer of complication. But you'd think it would also be important to see how the medication might interact with hormonal fluctuations. Sigh.

Okay, great point. Misdiagnoses can go both ways. Glad you got the second opinion and a proper diagnosis! And that sounds really terrible for your friend.

Have you read "You mean I'm not lazy, stupid, or crazy?!" by Kate Kelly et al? It's a fantastic read and made me feel like less of a fuck up. I highly recommend it. "Women with Attention Deficit Disorder" by Sari Solden is also pretty great.

I don't know, but I'd guess not, given how little is known about how one's menstrual cycle affects how you absorb and metabolize the medication. </my current ADHD struggles.> If anyone else has a science-y understanding of all this, I'd love to hear it.

How old and at what stage in life was your dad when he got it? Aside from random differences between doctors and practices, I suspect that has a lot to do with it. I'm glad he didn't have trouble. There's some kind of sick irony in how logistically difficult it can be to get a diagnosis for a disorder that makes…