I met my partner on OkCupid, and he doesn't have a Facebook account. It's no big deal, really, and I definitely don't judge him for it. I quizzed him on why he had an OkC account but not a Facebook account, but I was genuinely just curious. I couldn't keep up with my high school and college friends without it, but…

Damn. I actually think a kale bouquet would be really pretty. So if and when I get married, is the consensus that I shouldn't go this route?

Yeah, I guess my no-food-issues privilege was showing a bit with my comment. I get really annoyed when most people self-diagnose or jokingly diagnose various mental illnesses (no joke, how many people joke about being OCD because their bookshelf is alphabetized?), so I can see now how it would be frustrating if…

How much of Fuck You 2012 would just be reruns from Fuck You week? Or did enough shitty things happen in 2012 that it would be all fresh content?

When you throw a party, do you serve things that you don't like or can't eat? Is it your job to buy your party guests things that you're allergic to or ethically opposed to? Maybe you personally would, but can you really say it's an obligation?

Many people actually do have intolerances. But even for people who don't *really* have a medical condition but still eat gluten free for whatever-the-hell reason... let's think about that for a minute. All those wheat belly fad diet people are driving up the market for gluten free products, making more interesting,…

Let me rephrase that for you. Women's employment status being determined by her appearance, not her qualifications or job performance = sexist. Does it make more sense now?

Tell me about these industrial diamonds! Sounds interesting.

Do you also snark at people who buy organic food about how everything with carbon in it is organic?

Glad your son is doing well now! Thanks for sharing your story.

Glad I could offer some insight. I know a lot of people are hung up on the "how could a mentally healthy person do something like that?" issue, and honestly, I don't have an answer to that.

I don't have a good response to that, except that the tone we use to describe these tragedies differs widely. People calling the young, angry black or brown man a terrorist are not thinking about how he might have real reasons to be angry. They're using terrorist as a term interchangeable with evil. Same with…

Okay, I'm not familiar with this one of their studies. My experience with some of their other ones (especially the drunk driving v. walking one) is that their work is shoddy and sensationalist, so I am going into this with some bias.

I was a depressed and angsty teenager when Columbine happened. My mom didn't have the Internet as her platform, but she did publicly express her concern that I could cause the next one of those. It was embarrassing and hurtful, especially because she was so very wrong. Sure, I had a reasonable chance of hurting…

Yes. I would very much like to participate in that discussion. Maybe throw in some discussion of racism alongside our harmful standards of masculinity.

What is your source for the swimming pool statistic, and does it account for exposure rates?

I am one of those people who have complaints about the instant presumption that Lanza was mentally ill, but it's much more nuanced than just not wanting to connect Lanza to mental illness. So if it helps any, here are my thoughts.

Really all we'd need is hell for them.

That only stops teenagers with allergies, though. Maybe we should add mild skin irritants to the perfumes to deter everyone else from using as much?

Anything without "fragrance" or "perfume" in the ingredients list. A chemical-based fragrance. Was that really so difficult to understand?