Rather than giving sex toys, I'd suggest buying her/him a gift card for whatever their local sex-positive store is (like smitten kitten, good vibes, etc). Otherwise, a fancy selection of lubes.

Wait. n00b question here, because your comment has this "friend" of mine paranoid now. For massages that don't involve any condom-adjacent areas of the body, are oils still bad? Like traces of massage oil on hands, back, or sheets from an hour ago - does that compromise the integrity of the condom? Because if so,…

You clearly don't believe that the "walk of shame" has anything to do with actual shame, but I'm going to nitpick nonetheless. I am on a mission to replace "walk of shame" with "walk of glory". Or "walk of triumph". Or, really, "walk of just about anything but shame". Because nobody should feel shameful waiting for…

I want your life. That sounds wonderful. Now I just need to convince my SO to get on board with this plan.

Ugh. I hate that. I feel bad for you and everyone else this woman knows. All those "Why were you walking/biking/taking transit at that hour?!?!" kinds of commentary are just terrible. I don't have a car. Those modes are how I get from point A to point B. I can't afford to take cabs everywhere. Are they really…

Oooh! I have a story about this! I had a chance to lay some smack down about two months ago! (And it's probably not what you're expecting.)

Heh. Your comment reminded me of a weird phenomenon in my field. I study transportation from both the urban planning side (my first home; we're a bunch of liberal hippies) and the civil engineering side (mostly staunch republicans). The funny thing about roads is that they're a completely communist infrastructure -…

Arg! Pell grants and other tuition-only financial aid grants are NOT income!!!! MN thinks my out of state tuition waiver is income for the purposes of our low income renters refund. I mean, at least the base tuition floats across my student billing account with actual dollar signs (though also not income), but the…

Eeewwww! I'd rather just have blood on my hands! He's not still in office, is he? The failed presidential primary made all but his namesake go away, right?

Don't be proud of me, be proud of her! Or don't. Whatever works. Honestly, she still votes like a Republican (mostly just because of the abortion thing), and I'm still radically pro-choice, so we don't exactly talk about this over Thanksgiving dinner. But I'm really proud of how she actually gives a shit once these…

My grandmother is deeply pro life, and you know what she does with her time instead of trolling feminist websites with her privilege distress? She volunteers for an organization that lets pregnant women in need of help live there until their kid turns 1, enabling women who want to keep their kids, if they only had…

As a recent Twin Cities transplant, it seems like outstate is very socially conservative but still elects Democrats because of their union heritage. So yeah, I'm still worried.

They can still buy you candy, can't they? Or did Pennsylvania try to stick that into their voter ID laws?

George Bush doesn't care about black puppets. And I suspect Romney doesn't either.

They do still monitor that thread! Maybe fewer people use it now because people think we're supposed to take care of everything via the "dismiss" buttons, but there are definitely still some pretty awesome moderators at the troll patrol thread, and they've helped me out when I've reported some comments. I try to…

No! You must vote! Because you might *think* you have them convinced, but then they sneak to the polls later and you're down. Tell one of your real life friends that some random lady on the Internet (hi!) said they have to buy you some jolly ranchers so you go vote.

Great. So are you going to pay for moving trucks for every DC resident, plus their security deposits on new places in VA? No? Then STFU.

Great sentiment. I'd also like to point out that we can report trolls here: http://jezebel.com/trollpatrol/forum

Whoever did this study did not talk to couples trying to navigate the dual body problem in academia. What I wouldn't give for a partner who just wanted to be ABD for the rest of his life and follow my career.

JINX! :)