Cop out. Our goal should be to always hurt as few people as possible, and this is especially true when we're talking about intersections of oppression where power dynamics are at play and unequal. That's why.

I'm not looking at this in a vacuum. And yes, I would consider someone violently attacking me while calling me a fucking faggot to be a hate crime. I'm not sure I would consider someone non-violently referring to me that as a hate crime. Hate speech maybe, but I definitely would still consider it a case of mistaken…

I am not a gay man. And I am definitely NOT a cisgender gay man. I'm a lesbian trans woman, and the only times I've ever had "faggot" hurled at me are times when I was being viewed as a cisgender gay boy, despite my very clear statements otherwise. Therefore, it was a mistake. I was not the target. Just because a slur…

...this is entirely false. I think RuPaul has been transphobic, that is different from calling him a transphobe. Sometimes I am ableist or racist or something else because of my privileges. That's all I am saying. And I wasn't called out, I was personally attacked in language I would expect from a schoolyard bully not…

1) Asking someone to remain civil lest they asked to leave is not a threat. It's actually a reflection of good manners.

I am not a warring party. I really wish people would stop portraying it that way. I'm not even angry. Every time I say, "Hey, this is offensive and it should stop" I have commenters jump up tell me to stop being outraged—and I'm not even outraged! More like mildly annoyed. I don't really get angry, and I like it that…

Because this is a website with an op-ed style to it. It is not an academic paper. If you wanted an academic paper on reclamation theory, I certainly have the background and skill to provide it, but that isn't what Gawker Media does. It's not even a hard news network. Reclamation theory is fairly well understood among…

I could provide videos, transcripts, and but I'm not sure what you mean by statistics (assault statistics, murder statistics?) I'm not removing from context, or did you not follow the links? Especially the predates one which has transcripts. As for being civil, no, you are not, and I am not threatening you.

Well, that's the thing about individuals within a group, we disagree. I am certainly not someone who views RuPaul as a transgender person. He is not a trans woman. He is a cisgender gay man who does drag. He is not in my group as a trans woman or as a transgender person. He is in my group as a queer person, but that…

Okay, dude, whatever. Now you're just being obtuse and condescending. I did go to both undergraduate and graduate school and I have been working in journalism on and off for over a decade.

I don't disagree with that. But I disagree with your first sentence. He is being transphobic. You can still be offensive to those you try to help. It happens all the time.

Believe it or not, it's because of people like Ru people are now starting to be ok with all types of people from the LGBT community.

You think that's all I worry about? NOPE. Just one of the many things I worry about. When I've had Japanese homophobic/transphobic slurs dropped probably intentionally to mess with me by a coworker in front of children, I fully acknowledge this is lower on my list of priorities even for words. When I'm probably having…

I mean, you can say you support the trans community and then still actually be acting like a total douche towards the trans community. Just because you say it doesn't automatically make it so. Intent isn't magic.

I know all of this. I stand by my belief that the use of the terms needs to end. Period.

I actually agree with all of this. I even have seen the coming out you refer to, so I know that RuPaul tries to make a safe space. My issue is that when he is told (and I am using he here, because I'm talking about him in the role of producer/host) that something he has said is not okay and is hurting people, he…

This is probably because you have no idea how much cis gay men make fun of lesbians and trans people (butch lesbian here). They have very little respect, in general. Making fun of Chyna? Its the same as making fun of women who do not perform femininity. The exact same jokes would be made about butch lesbians. No, you…

I disagree. G, yes, B, maybe, L, questionable, T? No, no, definitely not.

It more than the words even. Its the whole segment using transphobic language and bringing cis women into it. Making fun of Chyna? Not fucking cool. Even if I gave some credence to gay cis men 'reclaiming' the word in question(I don't for the record), how does that excuse explain making fun of cis women who don't…