She's not marrying them. She just filing the goddamn paperwork.

for some reason this dudes face reminds me of jon stewart.

I got so angry the other day because I went to the liquor store and got 2 bottles of wine and the guy checking me out goes “you’re not going to drink this all by yourself, are you?” In a tone that implied the sentence would end with sweetheart. So what if I AM (I was not planning on drinking both bottles THAT NIGHT…

I know what I’m doing tonight...

Anytime I’ve ever gone home with someone, people know where I am. I actually, to some degree, would rather go home with someone than have them come home with me because I did once meet a guy on Match, never intended to take him home with me, but we ended up breaking down near my house on the way from a restaurant to a…

Also no cupcakes

I don’t have sexist ladyfriends. I have sexist ladies on the fouth tier of friendship that I keep firmly on the outside. Why do I never invite you over for homemade cinnamon rolls neighbor Carol? Because I can’t listen to you without wanting to scream.

My sister, who has a long-term transwoman friend and is pro gay and lesbian rights told me I was a slut when I came out as bisexual because “at least gay people don’t have a choice”. I told her I was in love with a girl at the time and that you don’t who you fall for. She also judges women for being more promiscuous…

YEP. “For men? Why is that for men? What happens when it’s something you actually want to do? Still going to let somebody’s archaic gender definitions and inherent sexism dictate your life choices?”

Yes, you actually can change them. My very left wing mother and aunt called my other aunt and her Southern Baptist pastor husband on their racist, sexist, old fashioned crap...and years later Southern Baptist uncle said “When you think about it they made a lot of sense.”

This is why its so important to engage with people and not immediately dismiss someone as soon as they say something you don’t like. A lot of commenters here love to say how “its not their job” to educate people, as if they were born with innate knowledge about everything, and weren’t taught anything by others.…

Agree. I know several women whose mentality is basically “looking good is all. Fat people are gross. I must always have a guy or else DEATH!” So they go through guy after guy after guy, and none of these relationships or hookups are anything emotionally healthy or meaningful. That way of thinking just seems so…

Aw, I own a silver-toned kitten ear headband. I got it for $4 on Amazon though. And I'm a married mom who is turning 37 in two days.

I was hanging out with a new-ish friend, and we were deciding what theatre show to see. She told me she didn’t want to see any of the burlesque shows because she didn’t want to see women with flabby stomachs half-naked. I said that the women were clearly comfortable in their bodies to be able to get up in front of a…

I think the important thing to consider is this: when you finish a conversation or night out with these friends, how do you feel? Do you think the evening was fun and the conversation was interesting, even if you didn’t agree with everything being said? Or do you walk away with a bad feeling about them and maybe about…

Yeah, that’s the thing. My close friends have the same values I do (with a couple gray areas surrounding guns, but even the people who are more into guns are into heavier regulations, so we find some common ground there). But I’m just not close with people who are anti-choice, anti-gay, ultra-religious, etc. There’s…

First of all, this is a great piece! Secondly, I think a good way to deal with women saying sexist things is to remind them that those attitudes negatively affect them too. Not ad hominem attacks, but things like, “You think fixing cars is for men? Don’t you think people might say the same thing about your interest in…

It really depends on how close you are to your friends. If they are casual friends, I would just let it slide. Pick your battles and this wouldn’t even be a pillow fight. But if you knew them really well, almost on a family level, then by all means, call them out. Even if it’s as simple as a, “Seriously?”

So this is a discussion I had the other day with this guy I really like. (Okay, okay, so it’s not another lady, but bear with me.) He was telling me how he’s lost 15 pounds and been watching his weight and stuff and he was happy about it, but at some point he got uncomfortable and said something like: oh, god, I sound…