Keep in mind that she was literally raised from the womb by two mad people. People who were crazy with fear and projected every last scrap of hope for safety and stability onto their infant daughter. She had no breaks or examples of normality that could hope to stand up against that kind of programming. I’m frankly…

Seriously? I am going to make a big assumption, but anyone who knows a hitman probably doesn’t come from a very good upbringing either. And I’ve said it before upthread: abuse does not end at adulthood. Filial piety is a very important thing in Asian culture. If you haven’t lived it, you have no right to tell her to…

No. Nothing about your reaction to your experience is crazy. Everyone’s different.

The Playboy Club isn’t the Playboy mansion. It was a chain of hotels. They were actually family friendly in a late 70s/early 80s kind of way. I went to the one in Atlantic City a couple of times and the waitresses were dressed like Playboy Bunnies and I loved touching their tails. I thought it was just fun. What were…

Another serious question:

I think this is a really important moment in history. I hope this really inspires cultural change, because Cosby was like everyone’s goofy uncle for my whole childhood. I listed to his albums over and over at my dad’s house (no tv) and my brother and I watched every episode of the show at least twice. It felt like the…

I told my supervisor at the Playboy Club what he did to me, and you know what she said to me? She said: ‘You do know that that’s Hefner’s best friend, right?’ I said, ‘Yes.’ She says to me: ‘Nobody’s going to believe you. I suggest you shut your mouth.’

I was thinking that, too. That as amazing as this cover is, I wonder what it would have meant to have had two empty chairs. One at the “beginning,” and one at the “end.” Because it’s now acknowledged there whereat least 40—but how many have died without ever breathing a word? So much pain and testimony on a single…

Yes, as the empty chair illustrates. It’s momentarily overwhelming to see so many of them in one place. As it should be.

So basically, he victimized enough women to almost provide a decent sample size to do a proper study on the effects of rape.

Not all of them by a long shot. Just the ones who he couldn’t threaten into silence. I’m sure Cosby’s actual number of victims is probably in the 100’s. He’s likely been doing this since he was a teenager. He’s 78, that’s 60+ years of victimizing.

This made me burst into tears. Seeing them all in one space...

It does take a lot of guts. But then the trolls will say “they’re doing it for money/attention, and this is proof!” Sigh. As a survivor of sexual abuse/rape myself, it amazes me the kinds of mental gymnastics people will go through to discredit victims.

It’s amazing how many trolls online will say, “where’s the proof that this happened?” Here is your proof. No more anonymity, all guts. I applaud them.

I love the open chair at the end of the line. It’s silently implying so many things. Because you KNOW there are more out there. And more women that will be raped by others. It's almost an open invitation to other victims to feel like they could step up and join those women who were able to come forward.

I made my bouquet, too! Got some hydrangeas from Whole Foods, trimmed the stems, wrapped them in floral tape and then ribbon. BOOM.

The mason jar of your memories and veggie oil is waaaaaay too Piss Christ.

they doubled as favors at one wedding I went to, because driving home with an uncovered tiny fishbowl full of tiny fish, in a hot car, for an hour, is exactly what I want to do while also wearing my nice clothes.

I made strawberry rhubarb jam for my wedding favors. It was delicious.

Sunflower wedding bouquet at my wedding from Trader Joes. $8.00. I cut off the stems of a regular bouquet, wrapped some thin wire from a craft store to bind them together, slid a silky ribbon around it for me to grip, then went into the backyard in my $100 Nordstrom dress and got married to Mr. HappyGoLucky who bought…