Totally agree with you. Blackface is obviously wrong for a variety of reasons including that skin color is not an accessory (even extremely meaningful and specific religious paraphernalia are technically accessories - semantically speaking) and also because it is wrought with troublesome negative historical context.

Yeah, I didn't want to be negatively presumptuous, but it was definitely my first (and strongest) thought.

Yikes! Though, I did date a guy (for a reeeeally long time) that had similar-ish hang ups/lack of knowledge. It wasn't nearly that ridiculous and we were young-ish and inexperienced, but it also isn't something I'd be cool with now.

This will likely be buried in the greys, but I really hope someone sees it, because I'd love to understand from a person or people with personal experience from a perspective I can't have.

I think it really depends on how you feel in real life and what the parts are. If you have big insecurities in your real life or are at a fragile state, I can definitely see it feeling offensive.

Well, you *can* force them to some degree, but I don't think that's productive very often. I think just acknowledging the double standard and then talking about it actually helps a lot. It's not the most proactive approach, but it does 2 big things.

Those thoughts aren't mutually exclusive.

The first person (and now that I think about it the only person) who ever came out to me personally was a friend in high school. I told her "cool," and she quickly reassured me that she was not attracted to me. I joked with her by being fake offended.

As you probably know, this is part of a set of gifs. My friend randomly sends me them via text. It's horrifying and hilarious. She gets me.

Scorched earth.

A lot of people have stated the "sometimes you don't know how bad things are until you have someone to show you/ experience normalcy" reason. This seems quite logical to me, but I'd like to pose an alternative (or perhaps addition).

I hate milk. I've always thought it tasted gross. This might be related to the fact that I was allergic as a baby (my skin would break out just being in contact with non-breast milk). As an adult, it's dissipated to a very mild allergy (some dairy products cause itchy sinuses and very, very mild facial swelling).

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My rule of thumb is lies that cause stress are not lies worth telling (one exception is lying by omission when the truth is not really "mine" to tell which is more of a case by case situation).

I respect you respecting her privacy. That's very thoughtful.

Yiiiiiiiiikes.

I started reading your post with the intention of responding with my musings on age appropriateness and parental discretion... then I finished reading, and I realized that I am boring and you are awesome! Kudos tastefulTandA, kudos!

Oh yeah, I read the text, but I can't watch the video at the moment - thought it might have been in there. I can't say for sure, but knowing Fox News discussions as I do, I'd say there's a strong likelihood that my feelings on that comment would be totally in line with yours.

You're right that at this point it's mostly semantics (you seem to be in total agreement with the core thought of this thread), and I also agree with you that it's insulting and inappropriate regardless of gender.

She should apologize. She clearly lost her calm which led to her asking him questions... in an interview, no less! It's a good thing he put a stop to it.

This is suuuuuch a Quinn post.