Absolutely. I'm currently reading Roxanne Gay's An Untamed State and the sexual violence is even worse that I remember in Blindness. Gay never lingers unnecessarily on it, but the portions that are present are horrific. What is even more difficult while reading it is that every time the protagonist exhibits any kind…

Eh, he's pop trash, and he's perfectly suited to putting out something so you can dance to it in the club. I don't have any issues with him, and the levels of petty in his dust up with Meek Mill are still funny to me.

Don't let it bring you down. Love it as much and as loudly as you want. I agree, it's unfortunate there isn't much in-depth discussion. I actually enjoy talking about the merits of art with people who may disagree, but not when it's couched in hateful or just outright ignorant rhetoric that clearly isn't really about…

Genji, it's gotten to the point where it feels you're being intentionally obtuse just to continue an argument. You can criticize whatever the hell art you want to. Hell, say whatever you want about blackness, and in turn, I can respond however I want. I can't police anything because I have no power over anyone's…

Watch out, yall cause Genji is here to tell us what does or does not classify as a black experience. And he should know better than the countless black women who are pointing out specific touchstones of blackness that comprise Lemonade. Tell the world you hate Beyonce if you want, that is indeed your right. But it is…

Absolutely. When Iggy Azealea's dumbass started giving interviews about how calling white people "Becky" was offensive my brain almost shut down. "Good hair" almost exclusively refers to black or brown women with naturally straight hair (as opposed to curly/kinky hair). But then, that just goes to underline how these…

I've always really liked Beyonce—had all the Destiny's Child albums as a young teen—and have enjoyed watching her as a pop artist throughout the years, but I haven't truly been in awe of a project she's done until this one. It's pretty much impossible to assess the songs on their own because I listened to them while…

Fuck you, man!!! I can't be crying at work!

The hell. I wasn't accusing you of anything, just pointing out that people may come from different positions regarding this specific situation.

Honestly, this is a situation that's going to vary wildly depending on which side of it you're coming from. If you're the friend dating the ex, you are naturally going to want to justify your behavior. If you're the person who has a friend now dating your ex, you're going to want someone to be held accountable for…

I mentioned in another thread that a reference to the Television Without Pity message board was giving me awful flashbacks. Those awful flashbacks on TWOP are matched only by the numerous years I spent on AfterEllen (and Jezebel to a lesser extent) as a naive teenager. I like to pretend that site and all its content…

Oh lord. TWOP was the first (TV) message board I was super invested in. I'm having flashbacks just seeing the name, and they are not pleasant. Not pleasant at all.

I'm legitimately surprised sometimes that there was a point in my life where I used to advocate for and watch this show (for about 3 seasons). It was always ridiculous and inconsistent but the levels of fuckery just went off the charts.

What. The. Fuck.

I still quote half the shit the Clovers say to this day.

The bill was pushed through so aggressively and suddenly (in under 24 hours) that no one even had time to breathe before the fucker of a governor was joyfully signing it into law. Having grown up in SC, many of us thought of North Carolina as our more progressive cousin, proving that the south could potentially claw…

Oh god so sorry! That serves me right for literally walking into my house drunk and posting a comment. Some people have really been trying it this week, and clearly I'm ready to throw down.

I almost didn't respond to this, but since you are really, really struggling…I am a black person. A dark skinned black person, and yes, I have a personal investment in colorism because it has dictated countless aspects of my life. What are you even criticizing.

While I don't begrudge Oliver exploring the inherent racial elements of parodying a show like Empire and can appreciate a gesture at awareness, I really didn't see anything wrong here. If anything, it's a chance for non-black queens to display their versatility and talent by understanding that of course they aren't…

Thank. You. Jesus. Colorism is such an insidious, fucked up element to blackness that is still so, so prevalent within and outside of our community, and it's effects are not limited to fictional portrayals. Look, I get that a bunch of overwhelmingly white people who have no experience in black culture/community will…