Yup. I’ve been with a few of these guys, one was a real love affair. I don’t think these guys understand how rare it is to find that you click with someone on so many levels. They’d rather just run way with some fantasy or continue fucking themselves blind on some chick in s bar than have a real life partner... One…

But does this also explain why men also don't often get up for pregnant or old people, or why they'll near bum rush anyone to get that. one. open. seat?

The other side to “All men are scary potential rapists” is “we need to protect our delicate flower potential victims.” What you want to be talking about is not how to protect delicate innocent women from the ‘naturally’ sexual predatory ways of the opposite sex, but how to teach men about, as you said “enthusiastic…

See, that’s what I was thinking. They’re giving this long list of accolades, plenty of opportunities for this guy to have done this to others... And this is the only report?

Not everyone is going to have the same reaction to this, but why can’t she have had great sex that she just prior was saying ‘No’ too. I’m not asying this is a good rule of thumb, and in general, I think being with a person who doesn’t respect your boundaries is a bad idea, but we don’t question people with kinks when…

Well... even if in that group it hadn’t happened to each doesn’t mean it’s not very, very common. They were probably more freaked out about the abusive boyfriend part. I, for one, Have an abusive ex-husband and I can definitely say I did something similar to what you’re talking about (on probably more than one…

I love what she said to shut down nosy journalists continually asking about her uterus.

I appreciate that you know what you stand for. Don’t agree with everything you said, but I bet in person, you can actually talk about your differing viewpoints without calling the other person an “idiot” or a “troll”. High five to you!

I was just looking at feminstea posts. Strikes me as a “word-policer” - someone who reads one or two articles on cultural sensitivity, then spends the rest of the time correcting everybody on the Internet to align with the ‘correct’ PC lingo of the moment.

Yeah, I saw this too. Still, after all these years of Jezebel posting essays on race and racism and privilege, there are still people commenting on police brutality, or the black lives matter movement saying: Oh, those poor “POC”, they just have it so much worse. This would never happen to a WHITE person, like me.

God, how did he become a professor to begin with? I mean, don’t they need to sit in front of a committee and defend their work? Publish regularly in journals (where they will be reviewed and critiqued)? How did such idiocy even cross the main door? (Crying)

No, they really do NOT in a bookstore, grocery line, in the park or at the pharmacy - those would be creepy. They DO at parties, or at bars, clubs, or social clubs... They usually involve alcohol and multiple contact

Good for you! Other people find it freakish and smacking of a science project gone mad.

I love how it’s like: “quick, write a 2,000 year old meditation on human nature!”

THAT is some seriously freaky shit...

Yup. That’s *Exactly* what I’m talking about. My last piece was dissecting the word ‘genius’ - first for how it’s so often applied to mathematics and science, second... To men. Really fucks with your head after a while.

I don’t find it hysterical at all. And I really believe in fairness in all senses. I guess that’s why I’m trying to be fair in the sense of this word... Well, and I also love the Internet. BUT as a lover of the Internet, I am well aware of the polarities it tends to force opinions into. There’s always an “either” and…

I almost always read works by female authors - very rarely a few male authors. Mostly because I’m a writer too and I spent most of my childhood being told by my dictatorial father what “real” literature was - mostly overly wrought, gimmicky and complex works that lacked adjectives or believable female characters.

It IS inappropriate! We just should call things by their proper names. Blackface is unfortunately still around in some circles today. But if we put this woman’s “Noble savage” romanticism (perhaps a bit of white savior complex) in the same bag as the minstrelsy of the United States, we dilute the term.

Agreed. My caveat is with the misuse of words. It’s all over this site, including the author. Misusing words dilutes the horrendousness of blackface. Think of all the “Yess, massa!” and watermelon references, and pasting big lips or big booties on things. There are plenty of examples of that still today,…