As I said to some friends while discussing it: 1) Why would you ever let Adam Baldwin name your "movement" if you'd spent five minutes seeing what a pile of garbage he spews on twitter? 2) It's never been about ethics; it's always been about rallying around a guy who decided he needed to "get his feelings out" by…

Very well done. As a casual academic research dork, it's really interesting to see the entire thing that is GG defined using pre-established understanding to show that it has always been about being hateful and has nothing to do with ethics.

I was debating a cosplay that included the skirt, and someone said it was bad to wear skirts because of the number of creeps, so I suggested just being in plainclothes and wearing a skirt, and I got the same advice.

I really like that harassment is decided by the person being harassed. It allows everyone's comfort level to be accounted for and absolutely refuses to listen to excuses from harassers.

True, but at least NYCC isn't pulling the "if we have a policy, it makes it look like we have a problem!" shit that SDCC pulled this year when the question came up. In my experience, simply having the policy and reminders cuts back on a LOT of crappy behavior, and when crappy behavior does make it through, the staff…

Oh, now that's perfect. Super easy costume, too.

If someone else is already snapping a pic, I don't mind if another person jumps in. Shots from a minor distances also don't worry me because it's pretty easy to tell what that person is taking a shot of based on how the phone (its usually a phone) is angled. YMMV with other cosplayers. But honestly, getting asked for…

I've had both those flavors. They are amazing. +5 to Biden for excellent ice cream taste. I do hope he tried one of the weird ones they have.

Ugh. I hope he chokes on his fucking "overeducated" degrees. Even with my ear buds in I get dudes in my face sometimes, and let me tell you, nothing says "winner" like saying "Excuse me" five times until I take them out and bark out, "WHAT?!"

I put my foot down AND had a perfectly lovely wedding. I'll admit the reception took a dive when my half of the family left 20 minutes in because they were "tired," and the next morning they all talked about the rager they'd had at their hotel and the justification for leaving the reception two songs after the formal…

I disagree. I set a reasonable boundary, and it was ignored. Two extra paragraphs of your personal control issues does not persuade me that I should have handled things differently, and they don't make me feel bad that I stood by my original, well-communicated decision to keep children out of my wedding.

Precisely. I don't give a damn how other people want to run their weddings. They're not mine. Just don't be a dick.

One of my husband's relatives couldn't make it because they couldn't find a sitter. They called a few weeks before to let us know, and it was fine. They had been very positive about having a kids-free weekend and completely understood that is was our party as defined by us.

As hostess, I get to decide the rules of the party. And the rules were clearly stated with plenty of time for people to make arrangements or decide to stay home.

She brought the baby and when I dropped by the hotel on the wedding day to say hi between last-minute stuff, she sprung on me the fact that she'd brought the baby. I had been given no advance notice or warning from anyone.

I assure you, this was a case of "I was required to invite you to not incite family drama." But even if it wasn't, I gave ample warning throughout the engagement about the no kids rule and everyone else on both sides respected it and understood why we preferred to not deal with kids on our day.

Oh, absolutely. If you want to do the whole shebang because it's fun for you, go right ahead. There was just this expectation that I would do it and when I didn't, it was like I'd broken some ancient code or something.

Kinja, whcn I click "cancel," I mean for you to delete the thing. Not post the thing.

My hubby had

I got the same line for my undergrad and master's graduation. My mother tried to get me to send out a huge batch of announcements or invites, and I said, "I don't see why. Tickets are limited. People can't come."