That is a horrible situation and you did the right thing—painful, I’m sure. But, I’m sure you’ll agree, spreading lies about someone with a mission to destroy is on a totally different level than just bitching about someone’s past bad behavior (that, let’s face it, probably just parroted back the LW’s complaints about…

“you’re not nice” so often means “you’re not a door mat I can walk all over”

It’s hard. I have trouble getting beyond the ask stage unless it’s a crisis situation, and then, I start ordering everyone the fuck around. My mom, though, is the worst. She either gives orders in situations where she should ask or states desires like, “I’m really thirsty,” and then, gets pissed if you don’t realize…

My guess is that the writer told the cousin some home truths about her now-fiancée. Things she wants to pretend never happened. The very presence of her cousin no doubt reminds the letter writer of the very real doubts she may have lurking not far from the surface.

I always have to go back over my email and take out all my qualifying language. I was doing it this morning and deleted “it seems” or “it appears” a ton . I mean I know what happens in most situations I just have something in me that doesn’t want to be like - You did this, fix it now.

Yeahhhh, it is never a good idea to include someone who hates your fiance — and called you up to tell you! — in your wedding party. You’re, like, triple-dog daring them to keep their mouth shut through a lot of celebrating and task mastering. I don’t care what facade she’s putting up now, there’s a better chance than…

I urged my bestie to break up with her boyfriend once because he was being controlling and douchey and not meeting her halfway (literally - they were long distance and he refused to visit her bc he didn’t like the city we lived in, so she spent a lot of time visiting him and not building relationships where we lived)…

With the wedding/cousin situation, the bride really needs to decide what she wants her relationship with her cousin to be. This is not about her fiance’s feelings about the cousin, this is about if the bride wants to forgive the cousin for having a moment of (too real) real talk, and resume their formerly superclose…