Oh, and I bought his ring first. He bought mine about a month later - mainly because his mother insisted that I have one. I didnt really want one. I have a problem with diamonds, so I got a fair-trade sapphire.

Thanks! We were together for about three years before we got together. Then I dumped him and ran away to America to teach for a year. That was a mistake. We had talked about it, and he was totally expecting it, but it was still nice. My husband is proud of his feminist status. I came back to the UK after the year was…

Sure. :-) I'd been in America for a while and I was just coming back home. We hadn't seen each other in months. I was very bad at asking the question, but I managed, with great awkwardness. I handed him the ring box, said, 'Do you want to?' and we kissed. Then we took the train home. It wasn't a long journey, we live…

Try 30 miles.

Because I bought the ring too big and we couldn't afford to have it resized.

I stated what we did, then I posted a picture that illustrates an option for a mangagement ring (that doesn't involve a stone and therefore is a bit less flashy). If by 'self-congratulatory' you mean 'happy to be married' then, yes, I am. But I wasn't smarmy. There were no descriptors beyond the basics. And when you…

It is Hebrew! It says 'I am my beloved's and she is mine.' From the Song of Solomon, the oldest book of erotic poetry ever!

Bitter much? The post was about bringing in the Mangagement ring. I said that my husband and I already did it. Also, way to assume that we'll conform to gender stereotypes. We are not planning on having children. Honestly, I was not expecting sexism on a feminist site.

Also, I made my bouquet!

My husband has a mangagement ring. I proposed to him in front of Michelangelo's drawing of Sybil in the British Museum. Here is a picture. Also, I made the bouquet.

Yup. That was pretty much my reaction. And it was a general attitude. I did not linger long at that job.

I used to live in Texas. When I taught at a university (that shall remain unnamed) I was once threatened by the parent of a student for teaching 'A Modest Proposal' because it 'promoted abortion'. I live in the UK now, permanently, and I have to tell you that I feel much safer. Hardly anyone has guns. They passed the…

I hear what you are saying, but really I think that is the wrong approach. We shouldnt live in the world where a teen throwing an egg earns a bullet in the head. This sort of thing should be a rallying point, we should get together and push those gun laws through. If teenagers have the joy trained out of them and the…

I met my husband on move-in day when I started my PhD (he was earning his Masters). I had fractured my leg falling off of a treadmill and so I had to take the elevator. The lift was filled with bags and boxes that smelled strongly of boy. I went to my room. A little while later I emerged and ran into a short, hairy…

I have pretty severe PTSD so nightmares are a regular occurrence but although I am female I have never, ever had a 'relationship' dream. Unless you count the one where I was in an underground castle and I had to rescue my husband from a cage made out of perforated bars that was slowly steaming him to death like a…

The raven was sacred to Apollo and was symbolic of poetic revelation. The dove is valued because of it's purity, but it's only recently (theologically) that purity has been valued at the expense of all else. The raven fed Elijah in his sojourn in the desert, so they can also be perceived as messengers of God. Maybe if…

This lady is wearing a vagina on her chest. The clitoris is directly above her heart.

This sounds like one of those situations where the mother has fixated on a guy, and the guy will only give her attention in exchange for sex with the daughter. That is what the fact that the mother was in the next room indicates to me. Of course, this is based on nothing but instinct, but if that was the case it would…

I love my pretty chestnut ringlets...

'Because what better way to confront someone who is doing something you disagree with than to make horrible comments about their religion.'