Sorry, have to disagree. 20yrs old is still a kid. Big time.

I guess Kylie hasn’t been Keeping Up With Her Kontraceptives.

Honestly, reading through your response, I’m actually wondering if the specif icy might be the problem. It sounds like you have very, very specific scenarios and behaviors that turn you on.... nothing wrong with that! But having such specific desires could be putting him on edge... his lack of passion and interest in…

“Dude. I love you, but the sex isn’t working for me. This is a deal breaker. Either put in some effort and do x, y and z, or I’m out.”
This part, what are you proposing is basically sexual coercion. Like this is really not ok and normal, because “you” taking away from him right to give enthusiastic consent and forcing…

We still have sex or he gets a bj (which I enjoy) about 2-3 times a week. It’s just not good for me. He says he’s happy with our sex life. The conversations have been clear and specific, both while we are having sex and when we are not. I think it’s a low sex drive, he’s just not passionate, he doesn’t like when it…

This. This is the thing my cousin (professional sex-therapist and part-time roller-derby star, which is the awesomest resume I can imagine and who is also my very favorite relative) says: issues with sex are usually just relationship issues that play out during sexytimes. If he’s willing to put in the effort (and he…

Just because the letter writer’s needs aren’t being met doesn’t mean she’s just been friends with this guy for the past seven years. She’s simply in a relationship where she’s not getting the type and amount of sex that she wants. Because sex is important to her then that means she’s in a bad relationship, but that…

You may not have suggested that, but Jane Marie outright stated it and that’s what riceberry and EarlGreyOrNone are talking about. She said that a relationship with bad sex is nothing more than a friendship, which clearly isn’t true. For the letter writer, that makes it a bad relationship, but still a relationship.

Some of this started a year into my 4 year marriage. It’s been 3 since we had sex. It’s still incredible because I married my best friend. The sex was never great and neither of us misses it (yes, I believe him) We actually decided to be polya (my idea since I’m sick) but he’s never taken me up on it. When life falls…

“This sucks. But you haven’t really given us enough info to judge. Are your taste different? Is he just not into sex? Is he completely satisfied? I would explore these questions b/c they will help you figure out what to do.”

Agreed, I can’t figure out if it’s the frequency or the type or the communication. How blunt…

I love you, and think you should write this column instead of Jane, but I don’t agree with you at all on this.

Letter #1 - This sucks. But you haven’t really given us enough info to judge. Are your taste different? Is he just not into sex? Is he completely satisfied? I would explore these questions b/c they will help you figure out what to do.

Hard disagree. Write a goddamn thank you note. 3 lines: “Thank you for your sweet gift. Junior loves the [whatever]. We’ll think of you whenever baby [does thing, looks at thing. whatever]. Love & kisses/gratefully/humbly, New Parent. Same script for all gifts, so don’t worry about being that personalized (unless your…

Had the same reaction to “detach from your mother” in re: letter 2. Wait, what? 1) LW wasn’t asking for advice on that at all and 2) this doesn’t sound like a “put space between you and your mom” issue AT ALL. So the mom sends her reminders, a LOT of moms do that. And I don’t think the mom is so fucking off base that…

Its a backhand way to justify her own sexual choices. By putting down others. It’s cool and fun right?

Check your moral compass and consider your options:

They need to find someone else to write this column

“seven year friendship”

Sounds more like you’re the one with the bias, nobody mentioned Islam or immigrants. As a region, South Asia has a higher incidence count than any other, though per capita the UK has topped them as a country but that’s more recent. Acid attacks have been much more common in South Asia for decades which is why it was…

The age disparity is definitely addressed. There is a reason for it.