Congratulations.

This. if she’s actively un-helping, she is not helping.

Never married, but as a child of divorced parents—whose divorce, involving custody battles—took around TEN YEARS. We begged my dad to leave my mother for years before he got the oldest kids off to college. When I think all of the unhappy years that could have been avoided I want a time machine—so I’m glad you’re…

Yes! (I’m proud, not ashamed, that I know this.)

They have these at the shelter where I volunteer, and they’re called kitty condos. Really easy—plywood, screens, a perch, and a blanket. Do it!

DIY. Some kind of oil and sea salt or brown sugar. You can add oils as you want—I do mine in the shower and when I’m done my face feels like magic.

I use Neutrogena Ultimate Sport SPF on my face—non-greasy, works well, and does not interfere with my eyes. (I have contacts, which are basically little sponges, so anything that gets into my eyes stays there alllllll day.)

I have a smit who loves the outside even when it doesn’t love her. So glad you found each other again. Faces heal! So glad she is back.

The difference is that Ian thinks he is Deep, and he is going to bless us with his Deep Thoughts and Man Wisdom. Jia thinks Chipotle is delicious.

Do it.

Obviously. Your point is?

How does it whitewash? Also, it’s legal language, not ‘code’. The article specifies who the assailant was. And women are very capable of committing domestic violence.

Which cop said it ‘was okay’?

No, it doesn’t. From the IL Attorney General website:

The Illinois Attorney General disagrees (from the Atty General website):

As a survivor of Domestic Violence AND a Chicagoan the distinction is important. Women are more likely to be assaulted or killed by the men that ‘love’ them than by random strangers—yet trying to do anything about it as a victim is close to a joke. Calling it a ‘transit related attack’ would be the cheap way out.

People do not always die from self-inflicted gunshot wounds. People flinch, paralyze themselves, etc. Here’s a famous one: http://www.nytimes.com/1990/07/17/art…

Hyperbole is, by definition, extreme. As a survivor of assault, I don’t think violence in general is funny/to be taken lightly—if actually threatened. That said, I think the manner in which these teachers expressed their frustration sucks; I also understand where such utterances come from.

Okay; more precisely, the teachers’ intention was not to, have the students feel their hostility. Otherwise these comments wouldn’t have been hacked and then leaked. There’s no reason to think any of the teachers wanted the students to feel any hostility according to this article.

No one said ‘beat’ if I’m reading correctly. ‘Flog’ is not really a word people use in everyday conversation—it’s like saying ‘smite’ instead of attack—which leads me to believe whoever said it was being hyperbolic on purpose. (As in: never going to actually do this!)