As a trans woman who is staring down the barrel of a SCOTUS who will probably trample over my life and incite dozens of red states to do the same, I envy having that much control over your own happiness.

Right now there’s a court case winding through the Supreme Court that could be a pivotal moment for trans rights, our very own Roe v Wade. Last night I was hopeful that I wouldn’t have to spend the rest of my life constantly looking over my shoulder every time I need to pee because Hillary would nominate a sane…

Voicing my support as a trans woman. I have had to spend the past year and a half watching all these Beckys wringing their hands over every single thing coming out of Caitlyn Jenner’s mouth as if anything she says matters to anyone of consequence. Dog whistling about male privilege. Just a distraction from the fact…

As far as I know Caitlyn hasn’t made any comments about Trump’s sexual assaults, or what has been said about Khloe. She may come out in strong support of her stepdaughter, she may reveal her own story of being sexually assaulted at a younger age, nobody really knows at this point.

There are a lot of cis women who are rationalizing away Trump’s sexual assaults/rape, and would say “I haven’t seen it, so it can’t be a problem.” But I guess we can’t squander a good opportunity to shit on trans women and imply they don’t really understand womanhood.

Remind me again how many white cis women her age in NC have voted along similar lines, against their own right to an abortion, equal pay, maternity leave, etc...

While I think she’s not such a great person and disagree with nearly everything she says and believes, as a trans woman I am grateful for her awfulness in a way because that is more useful than yet another ‘acceptable’ trans person that allows cis liberals to pat themselves on the back for easy praise. How people…

Exactly, we’re all born into this system which is what Judith Butler’s concept of gender performativity is all about.

The fact that she’s being read as a man is my point, because to people like that cop, that’s what trans women are: men. You really think that your average joe understands the subtle distinctions of gender expression and sex and trans identities? This cop is vaguely aware of “mentally ill men who think they’re women”…

You seem to be missing the point that if you’re a cis woman, you have an inherent legal right to be in the women’s bathroom. I simply do not. And because society segregates things like bathrooms by sex, and conflates sex with gender, the only legal protection for my mandatory bodily functions is blending in and hoping…

Thanks.

I’ve learned some stuff too. And I definitely understand the frustration!

Oh definitely, we’re all exposed to the messages about the way men and women “ought” to be, and we filter them according to our identities. I think the problem is that a lot of cis feminists have a hard time wrapping their heads around the fact that we absorb similar messages about gender as kids. Like, if you’re a…

You got victim blaming out of what I said? No, the point is that sometimes the makeup isn’t just about how we express ourselves: sometimes it’s also about covering up the 5 o’clock shadow so we don’t get targeted by things like bathroom laws. Because if this woman was actually arrested, she could sue the police…

No problem at all! You really didn’t do anything negative at all, so don’t feel bad.

Fair enough. Personally, how I figure out my identity now is way different than how I figured out my identity when I first came out and started transitioning. How I figured it out when I first started transitioning was like being a gawky 12 year old again, whereas now it feels more... mature, I guess? My (cis) friends…

Thank you. All I want is people to realize that it’s not such a black and white issue, and that it can cause us a great deal of pain. But I absolutely agree with what you said.

Sometimes we get people yelling at us about “reinforcing binary gender” because they forget about the literal billions of cis people out there doing exactly that every single day. And I guess that yelling at trans women is more satisfying because it’s way easier to do than like, convince millions of girls on Instagram…

Right. So did I. “The kind of woman I am” or whatever you want to call it. It’s still changing over time. It’s not complete yet and probably will never be. But the ways I’m figuring it out now are nowhere near as immature and awkward as the ways I was figuring it out when I first came out. The way it changes has…

Oh it’s not anything you did here, I’m sorry if I made it seem that way. It’s just a general frustration with feminism... cis feminists often use us as punching bags to vent their impotent rage against the Patriarchy. Like talking down to us about the fact that we can’t get pregnant to vent anger about the fight…