Before I officially came out as a trans woman, I was perceived as a typical straight dude because I repressed any and all femininity. But when I was getting closer to actually transitioning, I started allowing myself to express that side for the first time. And of course, people started to think I was a gay man,…

No worries, it's not your fault =P

Not really. The problem is that people who are specifically looking to date a trans woman are usually not doing it for the best reasons (i.e. the same kind of fetishists who watch shemale porn). So being openly trans in your dating profile is not really a great option. Otherwise, disclosing after-the-fact means you're…

When you're trans, you're pretty much perpetually stuck in the Dark Ages of dating >_>

Speaking as a trans woman who spent a lot of her pre-transition life trying to "man-up," the feeling that you're supposed to be the provider in the family is something that can be pretty hard to get over. You're kinda beaten over the head with that message, and if you fail to live up to it, it can leave you feeling a…

Well I'm a trans woman, so I've been on both sides of the equation. And I'm just pointing out that part of the reason why some may do this is because having different equipment downstairs actually means different levels of comfort with crossing one's legs. Men definitely have some sense of entitlement when it comes to…

No, but people have different sized thighs. I've always had big thighs, and sitting with my legs closed together without everything properly stowed below (aka "tucking") was a very uncomfortable situation.

In defense of guys who do this, having to smush your balls together is extremely uncomfortable. However, since transitioning I've noticed that I'm the one that's expected to do it in crowded situations >_>