I'm still pissed about having to have eye widening plastic surgery every damn time it snows…didn't he realize how often that happens here?

Sorry, forgot to add something, and since I replied in Notifications, can't edit easily, so….
Anyway, I also wanted to mention that some men think it's not rape if the girl isn't saying no and/or fighting, so if she pretends to go along with it for the reasons I pointed out in my other comment, he won't necessarily…

I'm also speaking generally and not about this specific case. I'm sorry you were taken advantage of, that's not a good thing to have happen at all, as someone who has been there myself, I sympathize. It's crap like this that PUA's advocate…making a woman* feel socially pressured into saying yes, playing on their…

As to the first part, yes, that's what I meant…you would have had to have had sex with this person and in a way that no one could help support your claim that it was consensual. If someone falsely accused you and you had a solid alibi, you're fine. Not all false accusations are going to be plausible in the first…

It's a weird situation though, as this started as another woman posting
to people and clubs in this musical "community" to watch out for this
person, as there had been multiple allegations and stories and rumors
about them. Due to the band's rising popularity, media outlets were
digging for stuff on the band and found…

I don't think anyone anywhere is saying that people are allowed to "change their mind" after consensual sex and decide it's now assault. What people have said is that what you didn't realize was rape at the time because you were ill-informed on what consent is/means is still rape, even if you only find that out later.…

You've said a few times in this thread that she was "persuaded" that she was raped. Imagine I'm walking down the street and my friend drops a $20 and I pick it up, as he turns to go after the bill, not only does he see I have it, he then sees me as I proceed to look him straight in the eye and put that $20 in my own…

And I've seen studies that put it as low as 2%. Most people usually "split the difference" and put it at around 6%, which is still at a lower frequency than the false reports of other crimes, which averages at around 8%. (I can dig the source of those numbers up for you if you really need me to, but it's late, and I'm…

I'm kind of bummed she gave him money, though I do understand that if it means she never has to deal with him again, it's worth it. I just hate that he got any kind of vindication at all.

I think he'll find that most people agree that he's a real Nice Guy™!

This guy's greatest crime* was getting me to feel sorry for someone who was texting in a movie theater!

I'm Canadian, but I'll find a way to vote for you!

My thought is that it comes from the same place as "white knighting", projection. They think other guys would lie and do anything in order to sleep with women because they would lie and do anything to sleep with women. Then they think they are the "heroic" ones for pointing out that no men actually think this way,…

I'll have you know that my tween-hood was vastly improved by that scene from The Outsiders where Sodapop got out of the shower. Also by the VCR becoming available to me at that time so that my cousins and I could stop, rewind, pause and slo-mo forward our way through that moment many, many times!

Don't…don't even joke about that! I'm a baker (amateur, not professional, but a serious amateur) and I don't know what I'd do if there were only a finite amount of butter on this planet and I was living in the age that had it, then got to watch availability decline! Now I'm gonna have nightmares tonight!

*groans*
*readies bow and silvered arrows*

As a nerd girl, I can definitively say that yes, there are things going on in fandom that can alienate women and lgbtq and poc. I'm part of a group that tries to be welcoming to all, prides itself on having such a large number of women and minorities and yet there is still stuff going on there that could make them…

Just one more fan wanting to say RIP Mr. Boothe. I always enjoyed your work. 68 is way too young to go by natural causes (heart attack? maybe?) and I am thinking about your friends and loved ones tonight.

Lots of times women go along with things because they are scared to stop or don't know how to stop and this is because of two things. One, women are generally socialized to be nice, to be accommodating to people, to "go along to get along." This occurs for all sorts of reasons in all sorts of scenarios, but it is also…

As a larger than average sized woman height-wise, and fairly solidly built and who was once a very sexually naive teenager, I find this story sadly plausible. If the story is why you are doubting it…don't. Now, if it's the fact that it's only one accusation when people had been warning of hearing "many" stories about…