She says he’s not Dan Savage, and the show is fiction, the characters aren’t all based on people in her life: https://www.thecut.com/2019/03/lindy-west-profile-shrill.html 

I first came to Jezebel to follow Lindy West after she left The Stranger (Seattle’s Alt-Weekly). I finally bought a copy of Shrill, I haven’t cracked it yet but I guess I better get going so I can watch this.

My friend is the founder of the #hearties. She invetented the hashtag and everyhing. It’s mindblowing to see it talked about here! I’m not a heartie, though I loved Janet Oke books when I was 12.

Oddly enough, she would be 100% in the right to think that. Girl couldn't even be bothered to fill out her own damn college applications. At that point, her parents should have said, "Okay go take selfies and bartend in Europe for awhile."

Nah. She’s still a trust fund kid who will inherit millions of dollars. She doesn’t need a degree. I only regret funding her wealth with my wanton Mossimo purchases from Target.

I imagine her saying “OMG mom!!!! I’m literally going to die right now over this! How could you ruin my life?!? I never even wanted to go to college!!!”

I don’t feel bad for her but I think it’s shady and opportunistic as hell that jezebel is making her the face of the scandal when she’s not even one of the people who’s been indicted. She’s just one to the kids whose parents bribed oficials. The criminals are the parents and the network of scammers and coaches who…

I don’t know how I should feel about this. I mean, on the one hand there’s a certain amount of guilty delight as seeing somebody who’s had everything handed to them take a fall, especially in light of her comments about a school that many, many others would’ve been delighted to attend (and possibly worked hard to…

I have been trying to come to terms with the fact that one of my friendships is effectively dead. I had become really good friends with a woman at my previous job and I thought it was a friendship that would last job changes. However, she became distant when I left and while I had always previously provided her…

When my best friend and I broke up, it hurt worse and was more emotionally confusing than any romantic relationship I’ve been in. Megan, this is a beautiful, truthful, heart-wrenching essay. A lot of us have been “there.” But, speaking for myself, (as a well-read, thoroughly adult woman,) I’ve never read anything that…

This comment section is likely to be full of women reminiscing about friend-break-ups that were sudden, the ones that withered slowly and quietly, and the ones with all sorts of drama in between.

I was also underwhelmed by the first of Ferrante’s books (I didn’t even read the others), but this article resonated with me today for another reason.

My teen best friend is still my best friend, we’ll be 30 this year, within a week of one another. I seem to make and lose friends fairly easily, some losses are just quiet growings-apart (and sometimes later growings-back-together!), a small handful have been more traumatic. But through cycles of teen friends, college…

I went through the typical middle-school experience of finding myself suddenly voted off the island of a group of female friends — but in my 30s. Since then, most of my female friendships have had the depth and duration of a casual hookup. I like seeing familiar faces when I go out, but am not interested in putting my…

Great article—I’ve not yet read these books, but I really appreciate a conversation about the complexities of female friendships. Breaking up with my college best friend (15 years ago!!!) remains one of my deepest shames and most painful memories. It was one of the hardest things I’ve ever had to do—no breakup of a…

This resonated. I had a friend who just expected too much from me. A single woman, a former colleague, she moved into town and then it was on. She invaded my home life with over the top gifting, unwanted hospital visits, unrequested personal advice and finally, what I can only describe as a weird sort of moral…

This hit close to home for me. In the past two years I’ve lost 3 close friends—two of which I knew since college. All severed ties without so much as telling me why. I’ve spoken to other friends who knew them and our friendship, and for the most part the general consensus is they were immature to do that and it wasn’t…

My BFF & I have been friends since I was 10 & she was 12. I do not know how I’d get along without her in my life; we are so old now that this sort of thing occurs to both of us. She & I live about 200 miles apart.

This was beautifully written. I even got a little teared up, thinking back to my most fervent friendships of the past. I should mention that I’m feeling extremely emotional and raw at the moment because I’m in the process of getting a divorce from my best friend. I have not read any of the Ferrante books, but…

Nothing deep to say here, but I enjoyed reading this piece. It resonated in a way that was both pleasant and sad. I also lost a friendship over the past few years that had been particularly deep and powerful for me, and in some respects there’s still a bit of grief there.