Right?? I thought everyone was using them!

Don’t we all use barrier covers now? My mattress and my pillow are both covered in a waterproof allergen barrier. I have a dust mite allergy and these things have made life far more pleasant. Mattress barrier can be wiped down, pillow barrier can be washed, and nothing gets past them into the stuffing.

I can’t even imagine. The only times the topic was ever brought up through any of my schooling, it was for students to debate amongst themselves. The teachers did not offer opinions, and often restricted the topic from even being allowed for persuasive papers or debate practice.

Was about to say this. There’s no reason for ever needing that song again when we have such a beautiful version to take its place. ^_^

Wow. You should reread what you typed there. I’ll be leaving this discussion now.

I might have gotten out of my abusive marriage earlier if someone had told me it was abusive.

We may not have the most progressive electorate here in Mississippi, but we did manage to keep this guy out of the US Senate when he primaried Cochran. You’re welcome, America.

Recognizing the signs of abuse and defending her against attacks from people who don’t understand abuse isn’t treating her like a child. Adult abuse survivors know what it feels like to lose those parts of yourself.

Chris McDaniel is always talking about birth control. Like, a lot. Always about wanting to pay for it. It’s like a freaky fetish or something.

While I agree with that sentiment, that narrative doesn’t even come into play until the person recognizes and admits they’re being abused.

Free will is one of the things you start to lose in an abusive relationship without even realizing it. Do you know how long it was after I left my husband before I realized I could cut through the grass? I’d spent so much time being punished for leaving the sidewalks that I forgot it was a possible action I could take.

Abuse changes the game.

Thank you so much. I was starting to lose faith in Jez commenters... So many dismissing the abuse. :(

I’m not sure you’re considering his need for control, here. And the “while he’s president” has mattered to him for pretty much zero of his other activities.

Victimhood and helplessness is a product of abuse, not femininity. Abuse destroys your sense of agency and free will no matter what gender you or your abuser are.

Fuck no. I will not hold an abused woman responsible for supporting her husband’s bullshit. I’ve been there. I understand the consequences if she didn’t perform how he wanted her to.

Yes to all of that! <3 Consider this comment extra stars, since I have only one to give.

I’m certainly not in their circle enough to hear expressions of love. The main thing I have to go on is that I married the same species of abuser, and I know firsthand how easy it is to get fooled, addicted, and trapped. They know how to tear a person down and manipulate them.

“Class” here having the definition of “white skin”.

I wouldn’t be surprised if her initial interest was in meeting a rich man so that she could live well, but narcissistic abuse is incredibly effective in getting the target to fall in love, remain addicted, fear and obey, and lose all sense of agency and ability to leave. It takes an average of seven times for a woman…