Please tell me those rants are saved for posterity somewhere... Last time I went looking I couldn’t find them.

Straitjacket is right. How can people stand having their legs bound for so long?

The acknowledgement is appreciated. It’s easy to feel both invisible and discouraged down here.

You’re right, and that’s both depressing and infuriating. =(

*all the sads*

That makes me smile. And cry. But mostly smile, I think.

I haven’t seen a single one lose their hero worship yet....I hope to see some soon.

THISSSSSSSS.....I’m so sick of hearing people complain about condescension! No matter how gently and tactfully and politely you try to say it, the meaning of what you’re telling them is that they believe things that are false and they will call you condescending for trying to fix that.

I didn’t even go see it. I have zero interest in ever seeing it, which is depressingly opposite from how I felt before the Depp thing. And it’s striking how deep that ambivalence is....I’m normally such a huge spoilerphobe that I can’t stand learning the slightest twist in movies, even when I have no plans to see…

The skirt is black so it’s hard to tell for sure, but it looks full enough to fall normally in the front while still being pulled up in the back. There is some rippling in the picture on that side that’s not present the other. Everything else about the picture matches her account.... The position of his hand, her…

I sent a tweet some time back, and I know I saw a lot of other similar ones. She’s made no response to any of them as far as I can tell, and she did that interview praising his acting after people started trying to get through to her. It’s so disheartening, for someone who wrote a set of books so uplifting for abuse…

It’s all about control. If the partner is obeying, there’s no need to escalate.

I have two friends in that same situation. Their divorces finally finished, but the kids are still constantly used as a means of control. It’s awful, but there’s almost no way to fix it. =( All the luck to her, and thank you for the well-wishes. <3

That’s awful. Mine’s taking forever too. I hope hers gets done soon and that she can be completely free of him, or as free as possible if there are kids.

An abuser uses the amount of rage he needs to control his partner. My husband’s first wife is my best friend, and we’ve had lots of opportunity to analyze the differences in our experiences. She submitted almost completely to his control, and saw a whole lot less violence than I did. And of course we both spent…

Thank you for that. <3 I have been extremely lucky to have an amazing circle of friends. Except for quasi-anonymous places like this, I’ve only shared details with close friends, and all but one has believed me without hesitation and without trying to make excuses for my abuser. I was also lucky that he let a…

She’s been ignoring people about it so far. =( I’ve lost all interest in those movies, which makes this the first time ever that I’ve not bothered to see a Potterverse movie at the midnight showing.

Johnny Depp will control every bit of her life he can for every second he still can.

*all the hugs*

I’m sorry to hear that. <3