Heard wasn’t there for that. This was Depp, at Stanhope’s place, laying out his story for him before he ever went to Heard’s apartment.

Smashing things while arguing with your partner actually is abuse. If we made that clear to people earlier, fewer people would stick around in these relationships until it escalated to violence to their bodies.

Wait, wait...TMZ says “Sources connected to the case”....like who? Depp’s publicity team? The security officers are probably under contract to not speak about what happens in front of them, so who did this come from?

Stanhope said Depp visited him before he went over to Heard’s apartment. He wasn’t there during the incident. And if Paradis and the first wife both allowed him to control them, then he would not have had to resort to rage to do so. His trigger is apparently jealousy, so if those two just avoided other men they…

Thank you. <3 I’m so glad you got away. I moved out a year ago now, but there are a lot of things about this type of person that make the divorce process stretch on forever.

I’m sorry you went through that, and I’m glad you got out. One thing I’ve learned in all of this, not only are abusers great at keeping up appearances outside the home, but they often believe that they’re the one being abused. There’s a great article I found, when I was struggling to understand what I was going…

Thank you so much, and I’m sorry you went through it too.  <3 That’s the thing though, abusers think and act so much alike in this respect that for those of us who’ve lived through it, we can read someone’s account and know instantly that it’s real, because we’ve seen it for ourselves.

I am so, so sorry. I hope you never have to see any of them again.

Thank you. <3 I just hope the new girlfriend gets out earlier than I did.

People would say those same things about my soon-to-be-ex, too. Thankfully mine hadn’t gotten this far, but the image these guys present outside the home makes people not want to believe their partners.

Yep, there’s so much wrong with the constructs, but you want to support the individuals who are making the best choices for themselves within it.

That’s pretty much exactly how I feel. I’m all for people doing any consensual thing they want, but I’m hoping that they’re healing any wounds rather than perpetuating them.

I feel like I’m pretty often riding that line, simultaneously accepting anything non-harmful that is done between consenting adults, and really hoping that they’ve given full and deep examination to why they crave things that demean, diminish, or dehumanize them.

OMG, yes. I got blocked a few days ago just for asking why Hillary saying she’d clinched the nomination (which, barring a miracle, she has) was “despicable” when Bernie saying he was going to win wasn’t. Blocked. These people are acting crazy and they’re completely blind to it.

I’ve not unfriended anyone, but I got unfriended and blocked by a Facebook friend I’ve had for four years the other day.... Apparently because I don’t hate Hillary? She thought it was “despicable” for her to say she’d essentially won... Although barring unprecedented results in the last two big races, she has. But I…

I like to think that I would have gotten the hell out of there. But then I look back at everything I just went through and how long I stayed, and.....I feel for her.

Love chemicals are strong, and women stay with awful partners all the time because they still believe in the good part they fell in love with. I’m with you, she should DTMFA, but I understand why that’s hard.

Seriously? Being a feminist isn’t work. It’s simply not being a male supremacist. Lack of belief in male supremacy. That’s IT.

I just wish people would bother to learn how this stuff actually works before they whine about how it’s not working like their kindergarten understanding of it expects it to.

I need extra stars to give this comment.