I’m lucky enough to have the double-ugliness upgrade: I’m fat and disabled. People’s eyes literally pass over me like I do not exist, which is awful and dehumanizing and simultaneously wonderful because my walker has turned off all the “HEY BIG TITTY BITCH SUCK MY COCK HAHAHAHA” comments like a goddamn lightswitch. It…

I dunno, I feel like unless there’s some seriously screwed-up history there, he’s pretty unlikely to have thought his mother’s overwhelming grief at his sister’s death said anything at all about her feelings for him. If Debbie had lived another year or two and was still saying it then, it might have started to sting a…

There are few things I consider to be a bigger red flag than when a man is actively worried about being falsely accused of rape. I have never met a guy who actually values consent and thinks of women as people who spends much mental energy worrying about the extremely remote possibility of a random crazy person…

Because the police and the university have different responsibilities towards the victim (and towards other students on campus) and different things they can do about it.

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Thanks, that’s very kind of you.

I am impressed by your patience in dealing with breathtakingly ignorant people. God knows the internet is chock full of dumb arguments, but “Oh yeah, well, if you’re so smart, tell me how come an extremely important thing that happened in 2013, which had massive media coverage both at the time and in the last few…

I’m sort of that person.

Fair enough, and I know it’s a common reaction. It’s just one I always find baffling.

Word. /fellow choir nerd

Uh, no. Straight No Chaser are a bunch of exceedingly mediocre singers who sing exceedingly mediocre arrangements of songs, and I cannot fathom how on earth they’re as successful as they are. They are the Wonder Bread of a cappella groups.

I think I was born without the “secondhand shame and awkwardness” gene, because I just don’t GET it. A cappella is fun. A cappella singers are generally having fun. I have no idea why they should be embarrassed about that or why I should be embarrassed for them. People should be embarrassed about doing things that are…

I just want to say that I sympathize. My situation isn’t quite the same - I’ve been single for years because literally every relationship I’ve had has been abusive in some way, and the last one completed the job of fucking me up so badly that I can’t imagine being in a relationship again without being overwhelmed with…

This sort of shit is why I’m kinda bothered by the “the Catholic Church is full of child molesters and people who allow the child molesters to keep right on molesting children” meme. Not, to be clear, because the Catholic Church doesn’t deserve it - they absolutely do - but because the reality is “practically every…

I actually have very little trouble believing that models are insecure about their looks - the nature of the job is that other people are constantly judging you based on them and offering their opinions about them, and people tend to remember criticism long after they forget praise, so one “no, she’s not sexy enough…

Yeah, the Bob Loblaw humor is pretty completely contained to how other characters (including the narrator) react to/talk about him - I can’t actually think of a moment when Scott Baio himself causes the laugh. It’s pretty much all “Bob Loblaw exists and then Lindsay throws herself at him, which is funny” and “Bob…

My trick with family members like that is to give them fairly broad categories of things I would like rather than naming specific items - e.g. for jewelry, “I would like some small and delicate earrings with stones in an earthy color like green or amber or brown.” Especially if you have a lot of categories like that…

I find it helps that Bob Loblaw is kind of a dick. It’s worse when a character you’re actually supposed to like turns out to be played by a raging asshole.

You’re welcome! Anyone who tells you you don’t deserve to be sad and doesn’t mean “you didn’t deserve to have something shitty happen to you that made you sad” is a dumbass and can and should be ignored. Sadness isn’t a thing we deserve or not, it’s just a thing that is, and I’m pretty sure “Yeah well, other people…

Ooh, I envy you getting to read them for the first time! They’re just going to get cleverer and funnier from there, so you’re in for a whole lot of treats.