Exactly. The message is that women should choose better, not that men should be better. There’s not much incentive for men to be better: empathetic, sensitive, caring, supportive to women etc, because they aren’t generally rewarded for those traits. They’re rewarded in terms of status, finances, power etc. But women…

Handmaid’s Tale

Or what happens more often: a lot of men will not man up and help when their partner gets pregnant. Women continue to be punished for having sex while men create life and then can decide to move on when they don’t want the responsibility, leaving single mothers trying to finish school, working several jobs etc to do…

Also, male ego gets in the way of most guys actually being ok with an open relationship. What they really mean is THEY want an open relationship, they want you to be the main girl who only wants them. I am strongly monogamous/traditional, and have had three ex’s suggest opening up the relationship. As soon as another…

Exactly. We aren’t property anymore, and we don’t have to pretend to like some disgusting dude in order to be secure anymore because we can earn and get an education and thus choose our mates. Guys like this hate that we can now wait and actually choose a partner who deserves our attention and is good to us rather…

Right, so by this logic the outdoor markets on the sidewalks of New York deserve to be stolen from for putting delicious looking food unsupervised outside? Or if you accidentally forget to lock the front door to your beautiful home you deserve to be robbed and it’s not breaking and entering because the thief couldn’t…

I think the shift to using ads and magazines as a barometer for real life women started in the 80's and 90's and has just grown out of control. My mom is 65 now, and talks about being 5'8" and 115 pounds in high school and being teased and called Olive Oil because that was not seen as sexy or womanly. She also talked…

Seriously though, I nannied for wealthy families in New York for a bit and the moms have “safe food” lists and all snacks have to be approved. I’m a good cook and I eat pretty healthy so I wasn’t too annoyed (but still annoyed) at having to bake homemade kale chips (that was a favorite of most of the kids), and one 5…

I am pms’ing so this is perfect. Covers my greasy food craving, boredom,  crankiness, and horniness all at once.

We know what Melania is getting for Mother’s Day.

Anti-education is so correct. Our new head of family planning Teresa Manning believes “contraceptives don’t work.” Guess myself and all my friends who have IUD’s or take birth control pills have just been lucky not to get pregnant for the past 15 years. It’s definitely not the 99.9% effective scientifically proven…

I am so tired of people calling her beautiful. She has heavy plastic surgery, as evidenced by all pictures on the internet. Like Heidi Montogue level, Kylie Jenner level surgery to change her features. That along with several hours of professionally applied luxury makeup and tooth veneers, all piled underneath generic…

Yeah, I just posted about an asshole in the comments on Fusion who was saying it’s irresponsible to not have at least $500 savings for emergencies or unemployment. After I responded to him about graduating into the 2008 crash and being sexually harassed/company acquisition fired out of jobs with no warning, in…

Me too. I love him so much as random guys on Portlandia too. The one where he’s the electric company customer service support during a blackout, and the one where he’s a waiter at an annoying TGI Fridays type restaurant are two faves.

This also reminds me of growing up in a mostly white small town in Michigan. I got heavily bullied and harassed everyday in elementary school. When I would go to the principal to complain the response I got was “just go to the other side of the playground.” Not, let’s reprimand the crappy bullies and stop your life…

I feel ya. Everything’s just collapsing into fear mongering/unrealistic dog eat dog bullshit and dangerous ideas about those who deserve versus those who don’t. I made the mistake of entertaining a troll in the comments on Fusion about being able to afford contraception and abortions with the recent defunding of…

Yeah wow all that in 9 years as a black woman in this country. Imagine that. Pretty standard if you know anyone who has been through all that, but I’m guessing you don’t. Wonder if all the women and minorities at fox are actually suffering from cognitive dissonance. We’re just not working hard enough apparently.

I’m not teaching you anything. As a woman raised by a single mother who also graduated in 2008, I work as a retail manager because I’m realistic about my prospects and do not live outside my means, nor do I need to cut back. Your attitude is what’s wrong in this country where people who were lucky enough to be born…

Guess people barely above the poverty line who work paycheck to paycheck should get on that extra $500. Especially people like me with college degrees and no family support who pay all their own rent, bills, and student loans but can’t get a salaried job in their field and work paycheck to paycheck with no benefits or…

Yeah, after living in New York for 10 years I am over the complete lack of awareness of rich people. It’s revolting how removed they are from the reality of how most people live. Just one example: we had a blizzard that the mayor warned everyone about a week in advance and every paper had headlines about the city…