If we carry it that far Gabriel is undoubtedly Uncle Charlie.

On these points we really agree:
"I find kids don't seem to appreciate their parents until they leave home. Paige's situation is so unique"

Agreed and that is why this operation is turning to sh!t. They don't understand Tuan and therefore didn't see that he is in serious need of close and daily supervision (speaking operationally) as an agent; or love, affection, stability and guidance (speaking more widely) as a human being.

But I think the Eckerts will be unveiled as the FBI investigates, as soviet agents. And they may match a fingerprint to the one in Clark's apartment, and the sketches will inevitably be produced and compared…

But inevitably there will be investigation, at least by the FBI and the agent in the car is going to get involved if there is a big hoo-haw at that house such as ambulances and police arriving…

I think age matters here a lot, At 14 to reject your parents values and set yourself against them is pretty much to be expected. At 17 you start to become more sure of who you are and don't need to think your parents are perfect OR awful but can begin to see the shades of gray in between.

However my point would be going back to the original post, that Paige seems to have taken charge of her life in that she is following a path that SHE has set, has taken her PARENTS rather than TIM as her model in life.

Key differences between "manipulate" and "communicate" or even "influence" is the integrity of the message, honest of intent, the level of respect for the other's autonomy and feelings. If one is not actually having the end as the goal of the interaction then it can't be manipulation. In Tim's case he has an end goal…

I think she is still working on the details of her beliefs but she has clearly settled on her parents as her role models and NOT on Tim for that position.

I see 6 year olds in cuffs in school for having a tantrum so why wouldn't the police get involved when a kid is getting beat up?

I don't recall making any reference to bullying. But Tuan actively helping him plan his suicide is going to result in a meeting with the police that a KGB agent undercover isn't going to want to attend. Or doesn't have the necessary background to survive. Or even take a chance with. And the FBI care about Pasha's dad…

Well the thing is if Tuan and his parents go barging in they will pretty clearly reveal that Tuan knew about it. And I think the paramedics will come and the police will come…and in any event the police will want to talk to whoever is there…

Well as to Stan he has actually betrayed his country; blackmailed the Assistant Attorney general, and committed murder. He's out of the running.

"I wouldnt tell Henry anything until you get there."'
Could she mean "get to the point you're going to go"? Or would they pretend to take a tour to USSR? Not impossible, they are travel agents after all and tours would be available.

I think as a reality no because the operation will end; Tuan will go on to his next assignment as will P&E. But I could see jealousy being real and maybe distorted ideas along those lines. He feels cheated and wants parents I think that is true.

Well not saying it was an everyday occurrence. But I can see, especially thirty years ago, a kid helping another kid get his parents' attention.

"You keep saying he's unstable and dangerous and a loose canon"

Tuan: "You told me to do something. I did it."
But that is not what she told him at all.

What I don't understand is why they DON'T see how needy, angry, and isolated he is and how that impacts him, plus he's a teenager and stubborn and defiant when it counts. How could they miss all that when we the audience can see it so clearly?

We absolutely agree that Tuan is a loose cannon. He is needy and angry and a teenager to boot.