Question: do you think Gwyneth Paltrow would appreciate it if I sent her a cross stitch of the phrase ‘Come at me bitches’?

I’m saying it bothered me on a low level, but it wasn’t the main thing that was bothering me yesterday. You asked me who it was insulting and how, and I told you, and you then called me naive and were very condescending towards me. We can all care about more than one thing at once. I don’t know what you expected out…

Whatever dude, if you’re happy to think you scored some points here, go and be happy about it. I don’t have the energy.

I woke up today to find out that children in my home city had been killed by a nail bomb, I wasn’t actually thinking about Donald Trump to be perfectly honest. Thanks for advising me about how I ought to react to all of this.

And those aren’t very high standards, as we all know. Just because it’s expected, doesn’t make it any better, and he shouldn’t be held to a different standard to other world leaders just because he isn’t very good at being one.

It just didn’t seem like a dignified or serious response to a very serious situation. I wouldn’t use the word ‘losers’ in a formal work situation, so for the President of the United States to use it in this situation left a bad taste in my mouth (and the same goes for many other people here).

We’re well-versed in your President already, don’t worry about that.

I honestly found that insulting. Here in Manchester, we’re all struggling to find the right words to talk about this, and him saying that seemed thoughtless.

I never said she was being penetrated, I’m saying that unless perhaps it’s someone I’m in a relationship with, I don’t want anyone trying to initiate sex with me, whatever that means, unless I’m awake. But whatever, we clearly have very different boundaries.

No! There is a middle ground between ‘a rough shake of the shoulder’ and ‘sex’ you know.

With my last sexual experience, if she said now it was rape I would know that wasn’t true because she said she wanted to have sex with me and we communicated throughout about what we did/didn’t want. It’s not that hard.

What, you think it’s OK to initiate sex with someone while they’re sleeping if they’ve previously expressed consent to sex? That’s rape, regardless of previous consent. Don’t start having sex with people who are asleep! That’s rape!

Well said, I’ve been really disturbed that a large part of the reaction to this whole situation has been ‘Clearly Ben Hopkins is cis and straight and faking it in order to assault women’. It’s like their queer/LGBT fanbase (I am queer fyi) doesn’t want to accept that a queer person could be an abuser - if they’re…

Pretty sure they’re bi. Not everyone who has sex with someone of a different gender is straight.

Celia was right.

I mean Katy Perry wore John Galliano to the latest Met Ball, and I was sure as hell not expecting that irascible old racist to return to the fold. I know being a racist and being a sexual predator are not the same thing but still. I honestly thought he’d be gone forever. So I wouldn’t write off a Ben Hopkins comeback…

Multiple people have said that Ben assaulted them though. And the band’s response itself was weird as hell - and also included outright lies. The line ‘There are people who have violated others’ consent and do not know’ stood out. They also said that the allegations ‘came as a surprise’ when one person said she’d told…

Bingo.

That’s because she really has taste in women #kaylorisreal.

For sure. In my experience, men who have diagnosed mental illnesses tend to get a free pass for shitty behaviour, while women’s diagnosed mental illnesses are downplayed and seen, if anything, as more evidence that they are ‘difficult’. I get the idea behind the whole ‘toxic people’ schtick - and there are some people…