I'm glad that there's a happy ending to her story. There are all too many with endings that aren't so good.....many perpetrators cover their track extremely well and are quite manipulative. My abuser is one....

I feel your pain at a gut level....enlist as much support as you can get and be firm with your boundaries. Just because he wants to start an old dynamic doesn't mean that you have to play it too. In super stressful situations like this I prepare myself with mindfulness exercises and visualizations that my therapist…

I feel your pain at a gut level....enlist as much support as you can get and be firm with your boundaries. Just because he wants to start an old dynamic doesn't mean that you have to play it too. In super stressful situations like this I prepare myself with mindfulness exercises and visualizations that my therapist…

Being on meds for depression is a good recommendation: you've recognized and addressed an issue....how could that be used against you?!

Compassion. She's miserable and projecting all of that misery onto everyone else. Her behaviors are self destructive. She sounds very unhappy. When my kids were little and had temper tantrums I always kept my patience easily by just looking and seeing all of the frustration and upset they were experiencing. It's…

SO true!

I 2nd Nemeton! I spent all of my 20's in a very crappy relationship. To get through one day I gave away pieces of myself just to make everything alright. That's so hard to come back from and so hard to forgive oneself for...The best advice I can give is to be strong, confident and happy and don't worry about finding…

I loved CBT. It really helped with intrusive thoughts that I was experiencing and I functioned much, much better. After my appointment every week I left my shrink's office in such good spirits! You might want to bring your concerns up with the therapist about handling nosy relatives. Going to CBT is a great way to be…

It's overwhelming to do it all: work, school represent myself in this emotional, awful traumatized state. After this is done I want to make a difference somehow....nobody should have to face their abuser alone in court let alone be thrown straight back into their control. My heart bleeds for my son. He's the most…

I've checked with the organizations available and can't get help as this state has the highest rates of domestic violence and sexual assault per capita in the nation. It's easy to see why when the court system helps to perpetuate the cycle. I've fought and it's so terrifying to see what little there is to be done as…

I could kill, murder, main, commit arson and steal and get an attorney pro bono. Try to eave an abusive, never do well basement dwelling asshole and I'm on my own. He ambushed me and assaulted me outside of my residence and got off completely scot free due to the zero tolerance for domestic violence in this state: the…

Im so miserable. Have put my life on hold after my abusive ex was granted full custody of our 10 year old son with autism whom I've raised primarily. The judge has't followed procedure and threw out the advice of the experts whom all have recommended that he stay with me. Financially I'm destroyed. I'm only allowed…

The more you can distance yourself and the less you share with your family the better. They're dysfunctional. Maybe your father is more wary of confronting her than he is of you. Whatever the situation you will never win by engaging in your sister's ridiculous and sick games. The best way to prove that you're not…

Sounds like you're into natural stuff like I am. Bleach is a really good disinfectant. You can look up natural recipes on google. Really, the best thing for deep cleaning is to rinse often.

I have a really hard time, too. I'm appalled at how many people fail to grasp the detrimental impacts of racism....not just in these cases but in local cases involving indigenous Alaskan women whom are more likely to be sexually assaulted or victims of domestic violence. News stories cover cases in which they find the…

Personal experience tells me that you should consider cutting things off with your dysfunctional family. Not only has your privacy been violated, a diagnosis put on you(she doesn't sound qualified to give this diagnosis) but you are also being cast out? If you truly had the disorder she's claiming then a healthy…

Sounds like your sister is extremely competitive and trying to sabotage you. It's possible she has a personality disorder. For your own well being I would refuse to discuss the subject any further with her and your family and handle the situation quietly. Consult your psychologist and do what you need to in order to…

I know from your descriptions that something is definitely going on with your body. I feel for you because I had an infection once and wasn't listened to by my doctor or the specialist he referred me to. An appointment with a 2nd specialist revealed that I did have an infection. My doctor apologized. From that…

You have an excellent point...the lawyer that's devoted almost 5 years to this case, for almost nothing due to how atrocious it is(even before my son was snatched without cause and me branded a domestic violence abuser for leaving defensive injuries on a 6'2 man that had me pinned), has strongly opined how dangerous…

Thank you. It's hard or me to be optimistic or cheerful but I feel that my voice was co-opted in court so it really means something for others to know....even in a comments section. I'm working to get this out there. Hoping I can turn things around for my son and ultimately take this awful situation and transform it…