Hasidic Jews are mostly white because they’re of European descent, so this guy is white. Not all Jews are white because Judaism is a religion, not a race, and Jews can come from all corners of the world. I do object to European Jews in a America claiming they’re ‘not white because they’re Jewish’, though.

Yeah, white people in NYC don’t necessarily mind having black neighbors, but they do mind their neighborhood being majority people of color. They’ll tell you a neighborhood is “sketchy” but what they actually mean is “I saw a lot of black people there”. And when they move to newly gentrifying neighborhoods, they are a…

Don’t you know that if you say you’re not a racist or that you don’t hate black people, it’s completely impossible for you to be racist? GEEZ

Even if that were the case, that doesn’t sound like it falls into the “life threatening” category.

If they had wanted us to believe the whole “it was too weird to have sex” thing, they should NOT have made their first kiss in that hotel room so hot. I mean I’m not really attracted to anyone in the Friends cast except Paul Rudd but that scene had me fanning myself a little.

I can’t really process your comment because I got all mad again about how Rachel and Joey should have ended up together and Ross is the worst and that “it was too weird to have sex” excuse for their breakup was THE WORST.

I feel like. . .everyone’s elbows go a little past their sides when they cross their arms? Also arms are inherently on the side of your body so it’s not like a necessary thing to keep them in front of your body all the time? I guess my arms do go outwards a tiny bit more than other people’s due to breast size but it’s…

Any other large-breasted women just spend a couple minutes staring at your elbows trying to figure out wtf that guy is going on about?

Well, now you’re both wrong. It is totally fine to be poly and on Tinder; it’s not a singles only pool and it’s a little ridiculous to say it’s “unfair” that someone can date multiple people when you aren’t dating any. That’s just not how this works, it’s not like sharing candy in an elementary school class.

Ehhh. I still think it’s pretty skeezy to be on Tinder if you’re in a relationship, unless your SO knows and is cool with it.

I don’t understand why anyone who calls themselves a feminist kept watching it after they had James Franco’s character get raped as if it was a big ol’ joke.

Haha, she’s more of a friend-of-a-friend so I don’t know all the details, but my friend must have known he was in the relationship, or the friends who told me this story wouldn’t know about it. I’m guessing he fed her a “we were just growing apart” kind of line, but that bullshit seems like it would work better if you…

Looking for friends on Okcupid makes sense, though, because there’s a clear option for that and you give details about your interests, etc. Tinder is all about looks, so the idea of meeting friends there is just bizarre and disingenuous— if you’re just looking for friends you don’t pick them based on hotness, ya know?

I know a girl who is married to a guy she met on Match.com— WHILE HE WAS IN A LIVE-IN RELATIONSHIP WITH ANOTHER WOMAN. Every time I see their baby pictures I just cringe about the inevitable meltdown.

I’ve only met her once, so it’s one of those situations where there’s no point because she’s going to default to trusting her husband’s excuse over whatever I might say.

Or, maybe the author was operating under the assumption that the majority of married people are not monogamish or poly at this point in time, rather than specifically calling you a liar. Deep breaths buddy.

Haha, good point. I even have side-eye for guys who post a shirtless pic that’s like, on a beach or whatever; I have definitely never responded to a shirtless bathroom-mirror pic.

. . .so I guess Gawker employs people who have never heard of Yelp?

Yup, often. A friend of mine found her ex (who has had a new girlfriend for quite awhile now) on OKC because she recognized a headless version of a shirtless pic that he had sent her before. Really though the most pressing question is what women actually RESPOND to headless shirtless pic guys on OKc?

I know a guy who met his wife on OKc, and I see his OKc profile all the time. It says he’s single and has logged in recently. It is baffling to me that she has not figured this out yet, considering she knows how OKC works and MUST have single friends.