It also doesn’t look like they said to anyone that they are “celebrating the anniversary of their conscious uncoupling”. They were just seen vacationing on a beach together with the kids, which I think is very nice! Good god am I defending GOOP what is the world coming to?

Yeah, I always get it from people who think I'm attractive too. I think they just see the picture and think 'it's you! you're pretty!' They can't see the horrible image we're seeing (because it's actually just in our heads!"

Me too! I have a very low voice, which I think sounds nice when I hear myself singing, but when I hear recordings of me talking I think I sound like. . .my dad.

Oh my god, that is the worst: when you say it's a terrible photo of you and someone says "no it's not, it's great!" They think they're saying "you look good" but what they are actually saying is "that horrible image you are looking at is an accurate picture of what you look like to me".

I am also horribly un-photogenic, but where it really all goes to hell is with video. Show me a video of myself and I will be sad about how I look for a solid week until I can get the memory of it out of my head.

I feel like this all the time! I'll look in the mirror in the morning and feel pretty good about how I look, but I'll still get depressed later in the day when I notice all the other more 'conventionally' attractive women that are always going to get more attention from men. I'm kinda like. . .*I* think big curvy…

A mutual friend used to tease my little brother that he must have been a mistake because he’s five years younger than my older brother and I. I mentioned that offhand to my mom once and she said “What? No, YOU were the mistake”.

I'm almost jealous of Paula Patton— I can only imagine that if you've been married to Robin Thicke, every single moment for the rest of your life when you look around and don't see Robin Thicke will be a beautiful, beautiful moment.

This is really the bizarre part to me— that you're not opposed to cash but you're opposed to them telling you it's for the honeymoon. They could be spending the cash on any number of frivolous things, who cares? I think it's kind of nice to know that you contributed to something specific, rather than having just made…

That's completely besides the point. If you're planning to get them a gift, you want to get them a gift they would like, right? A honeyfund tells you that they would like some help paying for their honeymoon. Why do you care whether they would like that, or they would like towels, or anything else? I pretty much don't…

You should get a small statuette of yourself so that when people ask that you can point and go "look I've got one! And it doesn't even poop!"

Oh yeah, that's a good point. I'm only late-20s so most of the people I've asked are engaged at most, so I've been pretty sure they aren't actively trying to conceive, but that is another great reason not to ask that I hadn't even thought of!

Question: Is it rude to ask someone if they're interested in having kids? I have asked people sometimes when we're having general life conversations, because I think it's interesting and the idea that I would judge their answer negatively either way is beyond bizarre to me, but I realize that it can be kind of loaded…

I really don't understand these stories that are like "this terrible woman made me spend over $1000 to be a bridesmaid at her wedding, and was a total entitled bitch!". Like. . .how do you get close enough to someone to be their bridesmaid and not notice that they are a terrible person at some point before that?

I feel like "stop going to the weddings of people you don't like" would solve 99% of the people's problems on this comment thread.

I'm guessing a lot of the vitriol here comes from people who have had experiences with terrible demanding brides and grooms, but as I just haven't it confuses me. All the weddings I've been to have had a registry that included very cheap items, or no pressure to get a gift at all, or a fund you could give any amount…

Well, Pinkham is notoriously aggressive. But I think he's angry about people making a catch-all assumption that honeyfunds are "tacky", not angry about the idea that people might not personally contribute to his.

Bahaha, I never even thought of that. I SPENT A YEAR WORKING WITH AWFUL YUPPIE GHOSTS.

That is a much more reasonable perspective than just "because etiquette", but I don't agree because I don't think having the honeyfund necessarily = demanding a gift. It is traditional to give gifts at a wedding, so I think it's just helpful to know what the couple wants. I much prefer that to having to think of…

I just don't think that suggesting what people get you as gifts= demanding a gift. It is customary to give a gift at a wedding, so most people expect to do so and appreciate having guidance about what to get. I certainly prefer "donate to this fund" or "buy this thing off this list" to having to think of something on…