It says they have 'talked to their friends in the LGBTQQ community about our situation and want to apologize for our use of certain words'. Sounds to me like they maybe HAD some friends/acquaintances who did not realize they were terrible bigots and when they asked them about the situation they said 'um yeah, that…

I don't understand what everyone is so upset about. These people have friends in the LGBTQQ community, after all! FRIENDS.

Yeah, I'm not opposed to it coming up at all because it's fun to talk about our lives and sexual history is part of that. I'm talking about dudes who like, Felt A Need To Ask apropos of pretty much nothing.

I realized at one point I got asked this by every guy I dated before I was 22, and by none of them after that, which says a lot about the nature of the question. I'm pretty sure those dudes more wanted to brag about how often they got laid than judge me for my number, though (one of them was soooo proud when he said…

Exactly! She even mentions that in the intro, "I have got Amy Poehler's number". And I think telling that kind of story, about how you really screwed up and were stubborn about it and realize that now, is a lot tougher than just sharing graphic details of your sex life etc. I certainly know I have a harder time…

You don't? Obviously I think the solution to rape is to penalize housekeepers, because that is just the sort of thing that feminists think./sarcasm

Yeah after I typed that comment I was like "haha I'm such a liar, I said I had a brief fantasy about that when I actually had a detailed fantasy about it at least 10 times". I mean, I love my friends and stuff. But I just want to be THEIR best friends too!

Well, I guess we can agree to disagree. I feel like a learned a ton about Amy— she talks a lot about anxiety and depression and self-esteem in ways that I found incredibly relatable. I find Dunham's image much more calculated even if she shares more gory details.

I haven't even read Rachel Dratch's but I am already totally in this weird area. I was reading Yes, Please on the subway and had a brief fantasy about what if I ran into her on the train and had an awkward laugh about how I was reading her book and then WE BECAME BEST FRIENDS?

I actually thought she did a great job of sharing a lot about herself without revealing inappropriate amounts about anyone else— she talks about how her divorce made her feel without saying anything bad about Will Arnett, for instance, and I thought that was really classy. And the story about her apologizing to that…

PSA: Read Yes Please. It is like taking a warm bath of pure joy. She is so wise and humble and funny and I consider it a great tragedy that she can't actually be my best friend.

This, and also they are all still pretty much hourglass shaped. A step in the right direction, but there's a ton more work to do! I've been extra impressed with Modcloth lately— they've had great plus-sized options and actually plus sized models for awhile now, but lately they've really stepped up their game and…

I definitely wouldn't say it's unambiguously good, and it's definitely really important to be vocal about combating bastardized images of what it is. I'm just saying that since we can't actually control how people are going to use the word, or eliminate the word, we can see it as an opportunity to have a more public…

Thanks for yours! I don't totally disagree with your perspective and I think talking about these terms can be valuable in itself.

You too! Also feel free to link me to the article you're quoting where Jezebel authors say "Feminism is a cool, elite little club that you should want to be part of" because that sounds fascinating.

You said that you don't find a particular kind of discussion valuable— I politely explained why I believe that it is valuable. You responded by telling me I'm 'whining about how fucking oppressed I am', and lying. Which one of us isn't interested in a real conversation, again?

Hahaha, cool, you're both meanspirited and totally uninterested in having an actual dialogue about this, so I don't know why I'm bothering but, what "us guys" are actually saying is "Men and women should be equal, and these fairly specific worldviews and stances on policies would correct the current inequality that…

I disagree about the proportion of press time it gets, but even so. The context of criticizing these statements about celebrities is less about them having to share an identity and more about combating very public misrepresentations of what feminism is. In a sense, saying "I'm a feminist" is saying "I believe that…

I think you make good points, but in the end I think that trying to use a different word or eliminate it would be futile; and annoying as it is, the way it's getting used in media and advertising is a sign that feminist ideas are becoming mainstream, and that's a good thing even if corporate America will do whatever…

I don't know anyone who considers the word feminist itself one of the top issues of the movement, or talks about it at the expense of actual issues. Most of the hubbub about the word that I see is because of celebrities feeling the need to point out that they are special snowflakes who don't use the word. There's…