As a black man myself I feel like she’s fine to be who she pleases. I had to work pretty hard myself to stop the ridicule from those around me. Growing up on a nice mix of arrested development and nirvana my identity is hard for people to put a finger on. I’ve been called an Oreo just because I’m not crazy about the…

I like your line of questioning. This isn’t something that I talk about very much, but I am an ethnically white woman who was raised in a Latin American country by Latinas. My Spanish is slightly better than my English. All of my culture is Latino. But when I behave normally here in the States, people accuse me of…

Is it, or is it just uncomfortable? Trans people feel a certain way, she feels a certain way. At the end of the day both issues are about how people feel, and how they say they’re something and a bunch of other people say “no you’re not”.

Out of curiosity, if this were a woman who had been raped and she wasn't accusing a specific person and pressing charges, would her rape still be "alleged"?

It could also be that some people simply feel more relaxed and or comfortable in that position. I know I occasionally do (specifically after a hot day I don't like the heat and sweat feeling between my legs). Not everything is about taking things away from women.

If your vagina is hanging down between your legs you might want to get that checked out. Most of the women I know have theirs in their abdominal cavity.

You didnt pay a lot of attention in biology class, huh?

Jesus. Male leg spreading is no where near as bad as women who needs a seat for her purse/bags. An epidemic that affects generation after generation. I didn't even know "male leg spreading" was a thing.

That's not right. I grew up with hunting, and have memories of seeing a buck hanging by it's hind feet to the garage door, with blood dripping off its nose. It was definitely dead.

Tracy's article stated that many men won't even do something like that because they're afraid of being called "creepy" "possessive" and maybe even "pigfucks". And maybe that's accurate if also unnecessarily derogatory. At the same, women I know on Facebook post things about how unhappy they are that men don't make…

There was a bit of stuff about him "abandoning" the kids during the campaign, and "mom jeans" and saying he looks like a monkey have been staple since he was elected.

Hasn't Obama been attacked on all those counts plus the racist "real America" stuff?

Wow, that Vanessa Williams story is FUCKED. UP. It takes enormous courage to come forward about sexual abuse, and I really admire her for it.

....so the guy has a change of heart and wants to see his kid, and he's a MRA whacko? Come the fuck on.

Thank god I'm not the only one who feels this way. They were emotionally involved before the baby and resumed an emotional involvement after. You can't just call someone a mere sperm donor under those circumstances. It's far too tangled up for such a black/white declaration.

He sounds like a jackass, but I'm on his side in terms of the custody dispute.

Okay, so, it's kind of ridiculous to arrest the mom, but it is NOT okay to leave a nine-year-old alone for hours without supervision.

There are two different issues here. Pedophilia is abhorrent and will always be abhorrent no matter what some judge says. Incest between adults, while stomach turning for most of us, is consensual sex between adults and shouldn't be our business as long as it is actually consensual. At least that's my thought, but I'm…

REAL TALK, EVERYONE:

I wouldn't say men are "free from those shackles". It's not like the idea of the absentee dad who is always at the office is seen as an outstanding parent. He's kind of a driven jerk that misses all his kids' soccer games. But that's been the case since the beginning of time, so nobody thinks about it anymore.