It’s all sex work, yes. just two different kinds. And, presumably, she wasn’t there as a paid escort or performer so it’s pretty rude to assume that she’d be cool with being offered money for sex because her job is having sex on camera. That’s like running into a professional domme at the coffee shop and offering her…

That’s actually the first thing I thought. I’m not surprised he’d offer someone cash for sex. I would be surprised if he actually paid up. He’s the sort where you get the cash up front.

I’m sorry for you loss. Just be there for him. Right now, he just need to know that you’re there for him. You can’t fix this for him or make him feel better, you can just give him space to grieve and maybe run interference when it comes to life’s little annoyances. One of the best things my husband did for me when my…

I think the problem comes when elements of culture are appropriated or mainstreamed in a way that eliminates the originators. In the U.S. there’s a long history of white people co-opting and out right taking credit for music, dances, and styles created by black people and making huge bank from doing so. I don’t take…

It’s a liability issue for the airline. If the patient comes through with no problems, then it’s unlikely that anyone is going to care whether or not the person who helped them is an actual medical provider. If the person dies or is permanently injured and it turns out that the person who offered to help turns out to…

You can’t have a med exam but you can easily check someone’s license. I’ve come across plenty of older, more experienced doctors who were frighteningly over-confident, incompetent, and straight up lazy while their younger colleagues were actually more knowledgeable, not as arrogant, and actually seemed interested in…

Maybe but to me that’s more respectability politics. In order to be taken seriously we have to be perfect and express our rage in appropriately non-aggressive ways. And even when we do, we’re still criticized. Not using the word ‘heifer’ wouldn’t have stopped people from calling her everything but a child of god for…

This. Delta wants to cover their ass should the patient die or end up disabled following emergency treatment. Letting someone who claims to be a doctor/nurse help someone without verifying that the person is, in fact, a medical professional, opens them up to liability. Of course this should be across the board, no…

So you would take help from somebody who looked older/more experienced even if they didn’t know as much rather than help from someone who looked younger but is actually more experienced? You prove an excellent point about what’s wrong with this situation and how much assumptions and biases shape decision making.

Usually a business card or badge but if you’re traveling for a non-work situation, odds are you wouldn’t those immediately available. It is, however, possible to verify credentials online. Once she volunteered, someone on the plane or the ground could have either checked her local board of physicians directory and…

I love these shows because I like watching people start out ridiculously excited and enthusiastic only to find out that it sucks not having a shower, TV, or microwave. And I do enjoy the sort of random bits of history like how women stretched their rations during WWII.

One of my clients was a 70 year old black lesbian stuck in a nursing home because she didn’t have the funds to pay for a nice retirement community. Even though she worked as an accountant for years, she got about $800/month in retirement which covered very little. Her partner had passed away several years ago and,…

It seems really weird to not marry someone because there’s a 4 year age difference. That’s nothing as long as you’re both adults. There’s an eleven year age difference between myself and my husband - I’m 41 and he’s 52. When we got together a lot of people were weirded out by the age difference. They made a lot of…

I hate the idea of ‘important films’ because, for me, they are all about the noble suffering of black people as slaves, as civil rights activists, or as good people trapped in poverty. Not that these are not important stories but that’s not all that we are. And, again, this is just me but the praise always comes with…

Not just perceived to be less powerful but POC, especially black men, are perceived to be more dangerous and violent by police regardless of the race of the officers. It becomes a terrifying combination of confirmation bias and self-fulfilling prophecy. If an officer perceives a black man as more of a threat from the…

Me, too!

Not to you. NWA had a huge effect on hip hop and on hip hop culture and, for good or ill, those effects are still being felt. NWA helped to kick off the period of gangsta rap and Dr. Dre has been hugely influential as a producer.

Built in corset, most likely.

I’m a 50I and when I get laced into my corset my boobs look like they’re levitating, too. It’s a steel-boned, overbust corset and, to me, it felt like I was maneuvering around in some sort of scaffolding. I definitely couldn’t get into it alone and I actually couldn’t get around too much without my husband holding on…

I can in terms of skin tone. As beautiful as she is her dark skin likely would been considered a negative even 15 years ago. The majority of successful black actresses (or actresses of color) tend to be lighter-skinned than she is. She’s breaking beauty standards in terms of being a beautiful, dark-skinned woman in a…