She sings generic pop music that can be played pretty much everywhere. Malls, grocery stores, the gym, school dances, riding in the car with your mom. It’s safe music with a catchy beat made by a performer who’s cute enough but not so unusual looking that advertisers or consumers would be put off. The secret of her…

I don’t think the problem should be her singing ‘black’ music as much as it’s trying to sound like a black person supposedly sounds. It’s perfectly possible to sing soul music and to rap without going the extra effort of adding an accent of any kind. And it’s more noticeable with someone who doesn’t normally sound…

This. Music is something that is universal and considering how easy it is to listen to and discover all types of music, the idea that a particular genre can only ‘belong’ to a particular group is limited and, honestly, ridiculous. But the fact that some white performers are rewarded handsomely for mediocre…

She probably wouldn’t have. Likely she would have chalked it up to just another more unpleasant part of the industry or felt that she couldn’t complain because if she did, she wouldn’t get work.

I can’t speak from personal experience but I think it’s primarily the money. Not that some women don’t get into it because they enjoy sex or get a sense of validation from being considered hot and fuckable. But I honestly think a lot of it boils down to cash, especially for marginalized women or women who don’t have a…

Sometimes a sense desperation and gullibility go together. It all looks so obviously scammy to us because we’re not looking at it through the eyes of someone who feels that they don’t have a huge amount of choices and who needs some way to make money.

Yeah, that’s more being a victim of fraud rather than rape. Not saying that having sex with a drunk person who may not be able to fully consent is acceptable but if they’re choosing not to focus on that aspect, fraud seems like the only other avenue.

Once a person is past the point of being able to fully consent, it becomes rape. The woman in the article didn’t have just a couple of drinks to loosen her up, she kept drinking throughout the whole process and Hickey kept providing the alcohol. And then they had sex. Sex that she may or may not have been able to…

If the women were too drunk to fully consent to performing certain acts, it’s rape. That goes beyond dishonesty and false representation. If this dude had just had sex with the women sans alcohol and after the contract was signed, it would still be kind of sleazy but not rape.

I’m pretty sure the ones showing up on standard porn sites like PornHub are fake. They’re usually off of sites that specialize in them.

I think the presence of alcohol is where this goes from sleazy and deceptive to rape-y. The women had already agreed to have sex with a dude they didn’t know in a questionable situation. They had already outlined things that were okay and that weren’t okay. It was unnecessary to have them get drunk for them to do this…

Transcending race is frequently a nice of saying ‘he’s not bad for a nigger’. It means that white people view that person in a more positive light than they do other black people-often because the person does not act or look ‘black’- not that they are necessarily less racist. Their positive views only stay positive as…

It’s not necessarily racist to prefer to be around or feel more comfortable around people who share certain characteristics with you. Some black people prefer to be around black people, some white people prefer to be around other white people, some gay men prefer to be around other gay men. It becomes racist when 1)…

Honestly, it sounds like you’re enabling her. I’m not saying that to be harsh but, if her life is always going sideways and she consciously or unconsciously knows that you’ll always be there, there’s no motivation for her to deal with the issues of why things are going sideways for her. What’s going on that she can’t…

It is the best! I keep trying to get friends to try it but they’re hooked on KY. I always point out that KY makes sexy times seem like a trip to the gyno which is fine if that’s what you’re going for but that Sliquid just makes everything feel so much better and not goopy

I’m a social worker and I work with chronically ill adults. I use similar techniques to help patients be more active and invested in their care. It’s called motivational interviewing. I’ve noticed that the patients who do the best are the ones that are actively engaged in the treatment process. They can talk about the…

I once had a wound under my breasts caused by an ill-fitting and ill-advised underwire bra. It wasn’t deep but it was painful and required a dressing. As I’m getting that done, the doctor comes in asks whether I was some pain meds. At this point, I was just taking over the counter stuff which was fine. I said no but…

Presumably none of these people have kids who got into who knows what while they were typing out their rage-filled diatribes.

I think most people in general would be happier, healthier, and safer if the world was narcissistic, sociopathic, asshole free.

I think that’s the worst way to fight the patriarchy because it undercuts the idea that the patriarchy negatively effects both men and women. How can we say that it’s a negative for everyone when we dismiss someone’s experiences due to their gender even though those experiences illustrate those negative effects? Will…