For me it boils down to consent and an expectation of privacy. If you decide to have sex in the woods, in the park, or pretty much any public place, you are in may ways waiving that expectation of privacy. No matter how secluded your are, you are still in a public place. There is nothing you can do to stop some random…

Sometimes it has to be about you. Not because you don’t love the person but because you can’t give 100% to someone who isn’t ready to make changes in their life. Loving someone doesn’t mean burning yourself out trying to be there for them when they’re in the grip of something that, ultimately, may be more powerful…

I work with people like this and some of them really don’t have a clue as to why people have a problem with loving the sinner not the sin. They feel that they aren’t being bigoted at all because they aren’t going all Westboro and screaming god hates fags. It’s hard to explain that, no matter how nicely they put it,…

It actually is. I’m sure she knows plenty of people who would have no problem turning their backs on gay friends and relatives because their religion tells them to. Comparatively, her views are far more liberal and open.

But do you love your friends and family enough to overlook being stuck in a minivan with them while listening to a Kidz Bop country cd? Cause that’s love right there. I’m cool with respecting people while not necessarily being cool with what they do. Which is why I respect my MIL while side-eyeing her decaf instant…

Personally I don’t necessarily consider it cultural appropriation as long as the people in question aren’t also pretending to be Jamaican/African/any other traditional dread-wearing culture/religion and aren’t being horrible tone-deaf racists while twirling said dreads. I think that, like anything that has it’s roots…

Dreads can actually look and be very neat and clean. It all depends on how the person maintains them. I have dreads like the ones pictured and I oil my scalp and hair to keep them from getting frizzy and I brush them to get rid of loose hairs. If I don’t do that, my hair does getting matted and frizzy and nothing…

It’s not your imagination - I’m sure everybody was sporting a power boner. I’m also wondering if they looked at you and your daughter as easy prey. It’s much easier to intimidate nice, non-trouble making people than it is to deal with a bully and his possibly aggressive parents. The secret court, the lack of evidence,…

That’s insane. ‘It takes two to fight’ is such obvious bullshit since your daughter wasn’t fighting - she was taking a beating from someone who sounds like he needs to be in a more supervised learning environment. It’s sad that reason and logic have completely given way to fear of lawsuits and some misguided idea that…

True. And I get that teachers are told not to intervene primarily for liability reasons. There really isn’t anything you can do unless you’re willing to risk both your physical safety and your job. I just can’t get behind the idea that the only option for the officer was to go for the body slam. That’s even more…

I would much rather people talk about it rather than pretend these things didn’t happen. History is history. You don’t have to like it or be comfortable reading/hearing about it but it needs to be acknowledged. I hate the idea of trying to erase painful, unpleasant or embarassing parts of history because that means…

Training. Teachers, school police, school mental health providers - all of these professions are, ideally, provided with training on how to de-escalate and, if need be, restrain students that are out of control in a way that is least likely to cause physical harm to the student (and staff but mostly the student). It’s…

There’s a bit of space between politely telling them to stop and going for full physical contact like this. Bear hugs, arm holds, even just getting in between the girls and forcing them apart. Eventually it may have still come down to having to get to this level of physical but it’s probably not a good idea to go…

I’m going to say probably not but that still doesn’t excuse slamming her onto the ground like that. Lack of cooperation does not have to be met with an excessive physical force unless necessary especially when physical force could result in a serious injury.

I think that’s a pretty good description especially since, at it’s most extreme, food intake is severely restricted. But because it’s all about allergies and intolerance, it’s not seen as disordered eating. And bonus points for making your kid super extra special at the expense of good nutrition and likely screwing up…

The parents didn’t miscalculate. This isn’t the same as accidentally giving a kid too much or too little medication because the instructions weren’t clear. They let their child suffer and die because they were too wedded to their idea that natural cures will fix everything. What they did is called medical neglect.

That’s what’s really pissing me off about this. Somehow they feel that they’re the victims here because they may be held responsible for the (non) actions that resulted in the death of their child. Never mind that two professionals told them to take the child to the hospital but they chose to ignore those…

Every time my brother-in-law starts talking about eating nothing but natural foods I point out that a good deal of nature could and would kill us. Hemlock is natural. Blackberries and raspberries are natural and I’m allergic to them. It’s all such bullshit. I get not wanting to eat a whole lot of packaged, processed…

So now the poor kid isn’t just dealing with depression but with the added knowledge that her mother may be angry with her or disappointed in her for not getting it together. I swear nothing is worse than when a parent steadfastly refuses to understand that depression isn’t about not toughing up, not being grateful or…

You, too. And congrats on the weight loss.