Thanks for your amazing, supportive comment!! I just need to work out how to date in a world where apps like Tinder rule and I am just not cut out for Tinder! Anyway, I came to terms with something years ago: if romance and big love and babies don’t happen for me, I can still live a full, whole, happy and fabulous…

Yes.

I refuse to be lumped in as a strong black women just to be a pack mule, unsung martyr, emotional cushion, and mammy for everyone else and who doesn’t have feelings and in inner life of my own. I do own independent and selfish, because there has never been anyone to fall back on.

The thing about carrying the weight of the world on your shoulders is that it will eventually crush you. For far too long we have taken care of both black AND white America and have gotten little to absolutely nothing in return and it is KILLING US. We have to start making ourselves a main priority. We absolutely have…

Here’s a fun, rare clip to disprove the idea that 1930s/40s stars didn’t appreciate Motown in the 60s. This is from Sammy Davis Jr’s tv variety show: the Andrews Sisters and the Supremes sing each other’s hits. (And both of their repertoires have held up)

Yes! I have been told on at least 4 or 5 first dates that I am “too smart”. WTF???? A lot of men are extremely intimidated by smart women and that is such a turn-off. It is a huge turn-ON when men are attracted to you more when you say something witty or insightful and smart. That look they get is full of all sorts of…

I have known short men, men with bad skin, men who went bald in their 20s, unambitious men. To a one, all of them who genuinely liked women ended up in a long-term partnership.

Break-ups and rejections aren’t personal affronts, they’re the natural result of the trial-and-error that goes into living your fucking life.

Lol you can escape Boston in half an hour. At 2am maybe. The rest of the time, your traffic is as bad as New York’s but with extra Massholishness.

The problem with Boston is it’s super racist, cold most of the year, and Boston sports fans are the worst. 

Lol, $2M? How fucking expensive do you actually think NYC is? Where have you been going to get fleeced over and over again on your visits?

I worked at a Fashion Bug in the mid-90s. The only things I remember are cap-sleeve dresses with princess seams and a very enthusiastic penchant for combining taupe and navy. 

Fashion Bug in my hometown was located in the same plaza as KMart and Waldbaums. RIP, stores.

And I imagine your tone was much kinder when you told them to get off your lawn, no?

And did you find a corresponding rise in affection for the shenanigans of those young rapscallions?

Hey, the Baby Boomers may have been objectively the most criminal generation in American history. They may have done more drugs, had more unprotected sex and teenage pregnancies, but no one ever recorded them being bad at or bitching about menial minimum wage jobs. No sir!

True. And of course the Boomers went through their spin with this in the 60's. The thing is, we can very clearly track this pattern (hell, there is an example somewhere where ancient Greek philosophers were bitching about kids these days what with their fancy ‘writing things down rather than committing everything to…

Right? The ‘Me Generation’ if I recall! Every generation’s parent is THE most selfish generation evarrr, isn’t it funny how that always works out too?

We went through the exact same amount of “GenX is the worst” thinkpieces in our day. Every generation has to take its turn!

I do. And I hear a lot of ‘kids these days’ shit too. If it was tempered with ‘back in the day... I did some really stupid shit that is very similar to what you’re doing now, learn from my fuck ups’ then it would be one thing, but like I said, rose colored glasses. A lot of the ‘back in my day’ stuff I hear is then…