Great point. I would also like to point out this FERPA the administrator keeps saying has their hands tied is the Federal EDUCATIONAL RECORDS Privacy Act, and records of criminal activities involving students are explicitly not covered by it.

I adore you. For something that you banged into the keyboard with your nose, it was just what needed to be said. This post feels more like a call to arms than the wallowing in despair that this article triggered. Are we not a feminist knitting circle?

I had a similar experience with my rapist in high school. I had sex with him again about six months after he raped me and took my virginity. I was wracked by guilt and shame and regret and I couldn't understand why I did it. I felt that somehow my choice to have sex with him had made the rape less of a rape. That…

I don't even want to think about it with this level of detail because it's so upsetting, but It's likely that a drug that affects motor control such that you are slurring your speech, your other vocalizations might not be flat out screams.

"I said no. I told him didn't want to do it and it hurt and all that stuff. You know how that goes."

It isn't inherently gross; it just requires preparation. It would be fine for him to do at 18 with a consenting partner with whom he had clearly communicated and responsibly, safely prepared. He did none of those things because he's a piece of shit who doesn't deserve life.

Lawyer here. Yes, you're correct if Oklahoma is a one party state. The boy recording committed no crime and if he was not acting on behalf of law enforcement, it's not subject to the exclusionary rule (evidence obtained illegally by law enforcement cannot be used at trial).

Not to overlook the heroic kid who recorded "Brian's" confession, but the biggest positive in this piece for me was the piece itself. Not only was it clear, thorough and meticulously organized, but, being a '90s/early '00s kid, I don't think this level of investigative reporting on a story like this would have…

Huh? It wasn't recorded by a police officer and Oklahoma is a one-party consent state, meaning it was recorded legally because one person in the conversation had knowledge the recording was being made. Lawyers jump in here and correct me if I'm wrong, but I don't think you're correct.

As much at people here hate when I dig on porn, the accessibility of porn and the content in it today instills these ideas into the heads of teens and children.

Things were bearable for about a week, she says, and then "I messed up again. This time it was my fault." A group of boys came over to her house, and she performed oral sex on one. Another videotaped her without her knowledge, she says. "He showed the kids. Passed it around school. I was so, so embarrassed."

there needs to be a MAJOR overhaul of how schools handle harassment and bullying, completely separately of sexual assault. How is it that schools are harsher at punishing pot smokers than rapists and bullies?

No, this makes a ton of sense and I've starred you and am responding to help highlight this. ***One of the rapes happened on school property.*** They might try to weasel out of responsibility for the other two cases, because the actual assaults happened elsewhere, but they own that one. And not having policies in…

And, rock on, kid who recorded Brian basically admitting to rape and then giving it to the police because he knew that what his "friend" did was rape and a terrible fucking thing to do .

Totally understandable. I made myself finish because I kept reminding myself that these girls are worth it, that they need to be heard, they DESERVE to be heard. That is what got me through it.

A friendly reminder that Title IX applies to all schools that receive federal funding (acknowledging that this graphic is college focused):

It makes me wonder how many more there are now who won't speak up out of fear of the intimidation tactics used against these three. Brian may be the rapist but the entire school is guilty as hell of facilitating.

I'd say that 3 victims is probably not the number this will end up being. I just don't see it STARTING with performing forcible sodomy on your professed girlfriend between passing periods in a school bathroom. It's just SO predatory and sociopathic and PRACTICED. There's no doubt, sadly, a series of previous victims -…

Reaching for the positive in this story: ROCK ON, OKLAHOMA KNITTING FEMINISTS.

i can't read it all. not because of the length, but the horror.