I knowwwwwww... I feel torn too. This feels like the kind of thing they would take the opportunity to exploit. I don’t know what to think. CoS would go that low.

I don’t want to get into the business of questioning accusers’ stories (as has been happening since time immemorial).

She needs anonymity to protect her from assholes like you.

You are being willingly obtuse, and quite a bit rude here. SeveralMoons is correct, and you refuse any introspection on how you are not understanding that “pushy asshole” and “date rapist” are not different things.

You are literally the tenth person that’s responded this way to me.

Uh, are you the OP? Gudger whatever? Because you’re answering comments to him and you have that same style of writing in your posts (alternating between highly combative and highly defensive) but, if so, what necessitated the alt change?

Anyway, it’s not strange that none of us know Babe.Net, a site that caters to…

No, because agreeing to oral sex doesn’t mean you’ve consented to other activities.

The court of public opinion isn’t a real court, and people are innocent until proven guilty

“why would they pass?”
Why don’t you ask the Cosby women why they got passed.

You’re a fucking idiot to believe that rape accusers somehow come out on top as millionaires.
And you forget that they only get paid for their silence, not for protesting.

The kind of people that step up to the podium and demand evidence never actually say what the nature of that evidence is, proof that they are not interested in justice, but just defending men. Much in the same way trump repeats make america great again but never actually says how to make it great or when it was last…

Gudger is likely saying that since he/she has never read Babe.net, it is not a real site. That is a common response of dudes upon hearing from a source that serves some demographic they are not a part of.

Because she couldn’t say no or stop — or just leave?

Andrew Sullivan thinks removing condoms during sex and stealing ideas from women of color are “minor offenses.” I’m not sure you want him to be your go-to moral authority in this instance.

Because whether or not the story is true, she’s probably going to receive online abuse and death threats if her details get out? Supposing for a second that it is true, why is she obliged to put herself through that? ‘Remain silent’ and ‘deal with Internet assholes’ should not be the only two options.

So that incredibly detailed story along with his confirmed phone number and apology isn’t enough? She needs to be outed and have people know who she is simply because she had the audacity to tell someone that Aziz Ansari engaged in sexual misconduct with her? Gross.

What matters a little less is whether what he did was “misconduct.” I’m leaning toward he’s kind of a pushy asshole, not a date-rapist.

I’m glad there’s finally a dude willing to be the arbiter of when women can feel like a guy acted inappropriately.

Yes.