Yes. So much yes to all of this.

I'm sorry that you had to go through those experiences. And I agree about the ad. I guess it just failed all round.

Where did you read that about lesbian relationships? Because I know there are studies that found that women in lesbian relationships are at less risk than those in hetero relationships.

Aww, thanks. Hearting you back for being so darn nice!

Oh, I just thought of something to add to my already long and rambly response! The other thing that bothered me about your suggestion was that sexual 'availability' was what women are programmed to dislike. One of the points of this article that availability is threatening to women because men's nature is defined as…

Oh, for sure, but I think it was the same concepts under different names. All most evo-psych seems to do is make up new 'scientific' just-so stories for old stereotypes.

He isn't saying there is an evo-psych component to men's behaviour though, he's saying it's a popular myth that has shaped our perceptions and expectations. Believing the evo-psych nonsense has shifted the responsibility of sexual actions away from men and onto women, which is why women who dress revealingly are…

No, no. Obviously women in pants suits have fascinating, leg-related secrets to keep hidden. Men in pants, now they're just cold. No secrets there.

If you find yourself in the same position again, you can just make up a quick beschamel. It's pretty much just milk that's been thickened with flour and some butter. I actually prefer it for creamy pasta sauces, because it doesn't split the way cream does when you reheat it. But you do have to cook the butter with the…

I always found Super Hans kind of repulsive, but then I saw him in an Australian tv show, 'Spirited' (with Claudia Karvan <333) and ohmygoodness. Super Hans makes a ridiculously hot ghost of a 1980s punk rocker. Ridiculously.

Yes! It's definitely infantilising. To the point where - and I know this probably says more about me than it does about the word 'panties' - I can't help but picture a tiny pink and frilly pair of little girl underwear when I hear it. Which makes any associated sexualisation of the word just super ick.

Awesome! I hope you figure something out, I know it helped me so much. I go around recommending psychologists to everyone now =)

Hey, I just thought you should know, Medicare does cover you for 12 sessions per year with a psychologist, and I think you can get more if they sign off that you need it. There's some info here: [www.health.gov.au] or you could just go and talk to your doctor. There are psychologists who bulk bill, too. If this is…

I think that what you're saying makes perfect sense, and I agree with you entirely. But reading the comment that kicked all of this off, and most of the ones that followed, that was definitely not the main point, but something of an afterthought. What sekushinonyanko was initially saying - that if you don't want the…

Haha, wow, from that article: "I can't think of anything worse in the world than another bikini shoot – and I've got two next month."

I think it's more complicated than that, as nature vs. nurture generally is. Usually I fall on the nurture side of the debate too, but breasts are secondary sex characteristics, so it makes sense to me that there might be some biological component to finding them attractive. *Some* biological component. Maybe. I…

People who are crying 'The Racist Media are Jerks!' about this, while claiming that obviously white people have the ability to care just as much about a missing black girl are being a little naive, I think. Yes, white people are theoretically capable of caring just as much about a little black girl as a little white…

I don't doubt that the detectives assigned to Jhessye's case are doing what they can. But a more high profile case would surely lead to more pressure to catch the perpetrator, wouldn't it? I mean, I've watched me a lot of Law and Order and Wire in my time, I know how this stuff works! I'm sure someone is up for…

S'ok. I've been known to say some pretty stupid things when I'm half asleep too =)

That's really offensive. I get that you were going for funny, but.....no.