Especially in a dating scenario context. It’s depraved.

So. Fucked. Up.

At least they aren’t showing the episode and it’s a semi-happy ending. Jess is a starfucking asshole.

I've said it before and I'll say it again: we have more reason, statistically speaking, to fear conservative men in bathrooms than trans men and women. Between Larry Craig, Dennis Hastert in the locker room, among others, republican men get up to much seedier shit in a restroom than trans people.

They were merely exchanging long protein strands. If you can think of a simpler way, I’d like to hear it.

Why? Can’t you say, “hmm, why do you feel that way?” Or “I don’t feel that way; here’s what I think”. What about those terms renders the other party mute?

Ok, but I bet you those same students would be just as underprepared, just as full of shit without the “I feel like” phrase. Those words aren’t responsible for their idea that their uniformed opinion based on anecdote is worth hearing. That’s the 1000 people before you who didn’t say, “ok, but what we’re discussing is…

That could be the point. But it doesn’t make any sense. “I feel like” is simultaneously an invitation to your interlocutor to introduce their impressions and an acknowledgement that you don’t know everything and that the statement which follows is likely incomplete in terms of perspective. Which is GREAT. It is a…

A good faith question would have been “why did you use the word whine?” Your question contained an insinuation which was anything but courteous. That’s why you got an honest but snarky reply.

Actually, yes, I hadn’t noted that this was a woman, just a professor. In my experience it’s men who feel so entitled that they whine about not getting everything they want, exactly the way they want it, and, if anything, I guess I assumed it was a man who would complain about what phrases students do or don’t use…

I agree - often, many of us phrase “I feel that X is” when we means “I think that” or “It’s my opinion that”. It’s a syntax/language thing more than trying to hide or make ourselves invulnerable to rebuttal. We mean the same thing, we mean exactly the same thing as what we’re being accused of avoiding.

“I feel ...” doesn’t refer to feelings any more than saying “bless you!” to someone who sneezes refers to your belief that the expulsion of mucus means that their humors are now out of balance, and illness will surely befall them.

Seriously, this is how I was taught in counseling courses to engage clients and help clients start using this language during difficult discussions. It is a way to own your thoughts and not blame or accuse others. I feel that these Boomers are just upset that their communication, math, and overall social skills are…

Rather than condemn millennials—and those, shall we say, contaminated by them—for shirking “responsibility” through discourse, let’s acknowledge our more pressing duty: to stop policing speech, and instead welcome the voices clamoring to be heard.

Dudes don’t break out the crazy on the first date yo, they wait until they are enmeshed in your life and gradually push push push the boundaries of fucked up behavior. Unless you are smart enough to nip that shit in the bud and notice the red flags (which can be subtle) before it gets bad, you end up realizing one…

People are always wanting to victim-blame in domestic violence cases, but how many time are we hearing about women killed by their EX-husband or EX-boyfriend. People always asking, “but why did she stay?” when the article is about a woman killed by a current partner, but never put two and two together with how many…

It's been fun talking to you but I have to get on dinner now, and this is getting a little tedious. If you simply make the choice to try to understand someone else's point of view you can do it. You are clinging to a worldview and it's a little old. I've already said that I get what you are saying about media hyping…

Absolutely. They also (usually) have no personal experience whatsoever with terrorists or terrorism. So I don't get what your analogy is trying to do. If the same person lived in Mosul, I'd answer differently.

IT IS NOT WOMEN’S FAULT THAT MEN ABUSE THEM.

We women understand this shit just fine. Unfortunately men, especially those in the police departments, courts, and legislation, do not “get” this.

Where does “domestic abuse” shade into “domestic terrorism”?