It’s kind of precious. Like when my cat knows I’m sad and brings me his favorite toy.

“..bought Marengo a coffee and a glazed doughnut..”

Thanks for providing some context- I know it can be hard when a whole situation spreads as a soundbite. Based on what you said, this whole thing sounds reasonable enough, even if this could have been handled a lot better.

I think it would be cool if they took gender out of the equation entirely, have a parent-child…

At my elementary school (keeping in mind this was 15 years ago), they had a mother-son baseball game that was roughly the same ticket cost as the girls father-daughter dance event. I agree that this is a bit of gender essentialism and I’d like to see more events grouping by interest over gender, but at least these…

If you’re really into STEM and hanging out with your mother, is a virginity pledge really necessary?

I’d also like to add another difference: Caring about people. I knew a guy once who was so cheap he didn’t want his roommate’s girlfriend to come over anymore. “Because girls use more toilet paper.”

I don’t think so. Like I said in other places in the comments, I feel like women in straight relationships are already expected to do a *lot* of invisible work to maintain a relationship. For example, if we go (as a couple) to a friend’s wedding, and we forgot to get a wedding present, guess which half of the couple…

I was also the “boyfriend”. Mr Sparkles was ready way way longer than I was. I felt like we would get there, but he had some pretty serious things that had to be worked out on his own. I didn’t issue an ultimatum, I didn’t say work on your things or else, but that I wasn’t ready to get married until we were both good…

I just wish certain vegans would understand that not every person comes from the same place of privilege.

I hate this crap. I was vegetarian/vegan for a number of years and I don’t understand this behavior. If we were going out to a nice restaurant and we wanted to make sure they could accommodate me, we’d call ahead. They were always delighted and made something amazing. If I was starving and we popped into the closest…

“The tech industry isn’t sexist, trust me I’m a man”. - a man

One other reason only glanced at relates to the culture. When my husband and I were both working in computer networking, there was an unstated attitude that if you had anything resembling a life outside of work, you weren’t REALLY a network admin. We were on-call 24/7, and in my husband’s case he got called pretty…

That’s not even getting into splitting bills like internet service, so most people are probably saving even more than that.

Good idea! I just started a quick one with these headers!

I’m sure (my PhD says so) that most nations in the “free world” benefited tremendously from the labor of slaves, either because of being slave owners themselves, or part of an empire that enslaved and shipped 10-15 million of them. Americans may be arrogant as HELL, but we are not the “only” nation that has achieved…

Lots of other cyclists don’t seem to have this ability, or adequate awareness of and courtesy for pedestrians, and they do shitty things like zooming through pedestrian crosswalks against the lights. They probably think you’re an asshole because of that, and because it’s unnerving to have someone on a piece of…

Yeah, I’m constantly conscious of my mortality when I’m on a bike—with cars cutting me off, zooming past me half an inch away, totally unaware of my existence. Just from a self-preservation perspective, I cannot understand the tendency of some cyclists to just ride straight though lights, even weaving between moving…

I live in a very bike-intensive city and almost hit a bike once with my car - it was night, they had no lights or reflective gear, and they ran a red light. WHAT ARE YOU DOING!!

Okay but also bike lanes should be banned in general because cyclists should be banned because they never FUCKING FOLLOW THE RULES OF THE GODDAMN ROAD YOU CANNOT RUN A FUCKING STOP SIGN I AM IN A GIANT METAL TWO TON CYCLIST KILLING MACHINE YOU GODDAMN MORONS

If something is important to you and you need the people you date to understand it, doesn’t it make sense to be up front and hope it’s important to them, too?