Wow, that's pretty nasty. I have friends of all ethnicities that like/love me just fine. I do have issues, but doesn't everyone. That's what therapy and self reflection is for. I suppose I could play "the race card", but statistics have shown that Black women are the least desirable to date. I'm under no illusion…

So true. I'm not Halle, nor Nia. I, too, get to fall back. I think when I get to be a size 0 and some plastic surgeon that might help. Momma always did say, "The only difference between a pretty woman and an ugly woman is money."

You have me giggling at my desk.

LOL. Girl I went through that. I entertained the first few, but I'm standing firm: You cannot be younger than 30 and you MUST have your shit together. I'm old now, I just don't have the patience for the youngsters anymore.

Fuck My Life

Why yes I have. It's rare but it happens. I also get, "I don't date girls your age. All you want to do is get married." Bleh.

I feel you.

LOL good to know. I have not yet been overseas. I will go to Amsterdam first.

I'm not mad at you. There are many Black women who feel that they need to be loyal to the race. I honestly don't know what that's about. I will say that anyone who dates exclusively in their own race is limiting themselves. There are amazing people in every ethnicity and it's sad to think that anyone would close…

That is beautiful.

Awww now that's just sad. Having a brother and a father, I know you guys face challenges, but lack of women is not one I would have suspected.

Thank you. Dawww...

Of course I have.

Sounds good. I'm down, but I can't do Canada. I don't like being cold. I get that SAD's something awful too.

Trust. I do not feel like its the mark of shame. I've just given up online dating. Thank you for the pep talk. I've run into my share of just plain crazy as well. I just need a break for a while.

I ain't mad at you. I have a lot of good Asian friends, and I've heard their stories. I honestly don't know why there are ethnic fetishes to be honest. I've gotten, "I've never been with a Black woman before." What does that even mean? Do we taste like chocolate? I can honestly say I really don't understand it.

As a Black Woman, this is why I've given up on online dating. No smack to my Asian sisters, but I have just given up. I'm seriously considering sewing it up and becoming a nun. I gots personality. I've got edumacashun. I'm nice. I make a decent income. However, I am the statistically "least desired" ethnicity…

From a creative standpoint, the bitch is from America. We have a rich texture and flavor or many ethnicities that evolve into something uniquely American. Or she could just be lame and made a bitchen Cowgirl outfit. I guess I am just disappointed in her ignorance. It's elaborate but dumb.

I don't know. Good question. But the same could be asked about a community where everyone is integrated and you're 16. Do you defer and say well even though you're all dressing that way, you're my friend and hang out, I don't want to appropriate your culture. I'm going to wet seal now...?

I can honestly say that there are many ethnicities that do chola. As a girl from LA it really is a style and less about ethnicity.