Pond scum personified.

Bullshit in what way?

You’re looking at it from his perspective. He thinks that any sex a teenage girl is having means that she’s being taken advantage of, because he thinks that when a boy has sex with a girl, said boy is conquering her and defiling her purity. That makes no sense what so ever and is misogynistic beyond belief.

Would you care to clarify?

Nope.

You’re looking at it from his perspective, ironically. He thinks that teenage girls having sex means that they’re being taken advantage of, conquered and defiled, and that it is their job to keep those pesky boys away. You think that teenage girls having sex means that they’re being taken advantage of, conquered and…

Because obviously all women who are virgins are shy little wallflowers who don’t know what they like. They need men to show them what they like, duh!

But we’re not talking about culture in general or some nebulous external influence, we’re talking about the influence of patriarchy over women. To suggest that women cannot escape the patriarchy’s influence even in the comfort of their sexual fantasies is very limiting. Additionally, this is rarely just about women…

As far as niche kinks are concerned, they likely do. For slightly deeper aspects of kink, like dominant or submissive tendencies, unless there is a component of severe abuse or neglect, I don’t think that there would be a lot of influence. My parents were by all counts loving and supportive, yet I have mostly…

I couldn’t agree with you more. It’s easier to measure your chains and boast about their length than it is to try to break them.

Of course, that is a not a hard rule and it isn’t true for everyone, but it’s definitely a trend. The same goes for the openness of the younger generation. I’d certainly say that younger people are more progressive, but not all young people are.

I don’t think that you think that way, but what makes a person gay matters greatly. As I said before, it’s a breeding ground for shame and guilt. It gives homophobes legitimacy when they say that X, Y or Z turned someone gay and when they try to dismantle X, Y or Z. It gives homophobic parents legitimacy when they…

I don’t think that kind of thinking is inherently related to hyper-masculinity or masculinity in general (at least not in the way that I define masculinity), but I have to agree. The reason is that these men generally fit almost perfectly into the heteropatriarchal mold that is assigned to men, are less likely to…

I don’t think that it’s about the fear of male sexuality or the fear of being assaulted. I believe that it is the fact that men are taught from day one to view themselves as simultaneously conquerors and defilers - which the male genitalia as the tool of the conquering/defiling. On the one hand, men are told that…

I cannot speak for the experiences of trans people, so I cannot comment on that issue. You’re of course entitled to your own opinion, but I find the idea that a person could be gay because of some external factor to be insane and a breeding ground for homophobia and gay-shaming.

I definitely don’t mean this is a defense of the man - because he willingly committed this atrocity without anyone’s gun pointed at his head - but it has a lot to do with how strictly policed and ridig (no pun intended) male sexuality is. Any deviation from the norm (in this case, possible contact with a penis) is…

If something biologically doesn’t affect all people the same way, then is it not biologically innate? Some women are submissive, some women are dominant, some men are submissive, some men are dominant - and keep in mind that much like sexuality, it exists in a spectrum. It does not affect everyone the same way. Think…

These discussions often start with “we want you to examine the root causes of your kinks” and end with “we want you to stop having them because you’re hurting women”. I’d say “brainwashed” is an appropriate adjective.

You keep twisting my words. I never said that you were biologically wired to be submissive because of your chromosomes or because you’re a woman. There are plenty of women that are not, and plenty of men that are submissive. I am one of them, and I live in a very patriarchal society. There is no reason for me to be…

The bells, whistles and the finer details of one’s sexuality are affected by external factors. For example, someone with a niche kink like balloons surely has to be affected by something - because we don’t come out of the womb with knowledge that balloons exist. But, and I could of course be wrong here, whether you’re…