I always thought of it as a po-tay-to, po-tah-to situation :D

When you hear about so many shootings, is “only three people” that shocking of a statement? And mind you, there are countless other shootings and countless other victims that we do not hear about, happening in countries that we don’t really seem to care about...

Some people even said that about the Paris attacks! Can you imagine the sort of effort and genius it would take to execute such an operation?

That’s a different word for the same thing though.

You must not know where to find the good stuff.

Do you really think that submissive women are submissive because of patriarchal norms though? Because I sure don’t. If their tastes align with something that some prudish feminists see as harmful. so be it.

Never? You must have some neat rose-tinted glasses if you think that.

I don’t really understand the question. Mind clarifying a bit?

I have no scientific sources to back up my claim - and of course, I could be wrong - but I will try to clarify further. What I meant by the “meat and bones” is whether a person is dominant, submissive or a switch. I believe that those tastes are as innate to a person as much as their personality is. Now, I believe…

Whether you’re dominant, submissive or a switch is still innate to you. They cannot be affected or changed any more than your personality can be affected or changed. The details of one’s kinks - whether you’re into bondage or flogging or into balloons - are probably affected by outside influence.

No, because I never said that all women have rape fantasies. Some men have them too, mind you. Rape fantasies are not a result of patriarchal dogma. The people that do likely have them as an extension of their submissive tastes (in the bedroom), and whether a person is submissive, dominant or a switch is not affected…

Would it matter if he was attractive? Because if you’re attracted to men, I can bet that there is at least one beyond gorgeous man out there that is also a rapist.

I think your GF thinks that society affects people’s sexuality and/or kinks in ways that it really doesn’t. The subtle details might be affected by external factors, but the meat and bones (pardon the pun) of one’s sexuality are innate and immutable. A submissive woman isn’t kowtowing to the patriarchy and a…

To say that women who have rape fantasies have them because of the toxic patriarchal culture is ridiculous.

One’s sexuality and one’s kinks aren’t affected by culture the way you think they are. The women who have rape fantasies don’t have them because patriarchal culture has pushed those fantasies onto them.

You’re of course entitled to your own opinion and your own standards, but to ask why *anyone* would want to date a 30 year old virgin implies that to be a virgin in your 30s is to be worthless. That’s what I have a problem with.

Pretty much.

Virgin-shaming? Really?

Wouldn’t we have to wait until marriage to, you know... suck it? :D

Overwhelming majority might be pushing it...