please flag and dismiss trolls.

Right there with you. I tend to be pretty critical of conversations where “kink-shaming” is thrown out to preemptively suppress discussion, but the anti-porn and anti-BDSM crowds really went overboard last night.

She’s accusing one of the most powerful people in a multi-billion dollar industry of a crime which is both deeply personally revealing and likely to alienate her from many of her friends?

Uhh... knowing the difference doesn’t appear to be the issue.

“People” don’t “always” take the woman’s side. Trust me, you will not have to go far to find people defending Deen here. But many people will believe the alleged victim because it is pretty rare for people to falsely accuse other people of crimes, particularly rape. And either you’re going to come to a conclusion, or…

Truly your heart is overflowing with the milk of human kindness.

It seems obvious to me she has more to lose, than to gain, by accusing a very well liked celebrity of something like this. Something everyone will challenge and doubt and crack jokes about. I’ve already read some horrible things like, “I hope he paid her after.”

Unfortunately, most women are raped by “nice guys.” It’s not a stranger in a dark alley for most sexual assault survivors; it’s someone we, and probably others, thought was safe/friendly/attractive/nice.

if stoya is saying that this happened to her i think we should believe her. what if you didn’t have solid evidence of what happened to you, how would you feel if people doubted you when you told them what happened to you because of that? the likelihood that someone would be willing to make a claim like this that isn’t…

I would be surprised if his personal and professional life is going to be “ruined” based on those two tweets. Men have been actually accused of rape and gone through the legal process (Bryant, Roethlisberger, Winston) and not had their careers or lives ruined. Bill Cosby was accused of rape by multiple women a decade…

I think it’s just hard for some people to come to grips with, the idea that someone they’ve known and cared about could do something so horrible.

Good on the Frisky, and excellently worded court of public opinion not court of law.

Seriously, I hope the same thing. None of my abusers are famous, but hearing anything about them, being lauded or even mentioned, makes my skin crawl to this day. I just want her to find peace and have all of the love and support she needs.

I hope she has all the support she needs at the moment. I feel like a lot of us have similar stories about having to grin and bear it when our abusers are mentioned. I can't imagine what that must feel like on such a large and public platform.

I think you’re making a bunch of false assumptions in this comment. I’m a rape victim and I get off on simulated rape. The two are separate in my mind. Maybe that’s because my rape occurred while I was unconscious, whereas my rape fantasies are about more cliché, violent acts. Anyway, I don’t think you can remove that…

I’ve always had those fantasies and been into that kind of sex and for me personally after I was raped they didn’t stop so don’t necessarily take us out of the statistics. For me, the fantasy is something that when played out I can be completely in control of the situation (I’ve been lucky enough to have respectful…

So begins the downfall of porn’s golden boy. It’s not all sunshine and roses after all.

Yes, he is pretty much the living personification of entitlement. He literally gets whatever he wants at any given time, and so he believes he deserves whatever it is he wants.

Reva was pretty prominent, I thought. Even though she’s only seen in flashback, the way Kilgrave, Jessica and Luke end up connected to each other has everything to do with her.

I love that the relationship that is at the true heart of the show isn’t actually Jessica and Luke, but Jessica and Trish. They’re the ones who are constantly there for each other, trying to save each other/pick up the pieces when it all goes wrong. I love that Jessica isn’t a perfect superhero, that when Claire asks…